Everytime I meet someone new?

Question

They don't even say "hi my name is" or anything like that they just say "WOW YOU LOOK JUST LIKE..." and it's always either, (usually)Jake Gyllenhaal, (Since I grew out my hair)Jared Leto, or (rarely)Tobi McGuire. It's really getting old. I can't even take people seriously, because it just makes me think they're retarded. And the whole time I'm trying to talk to them like a human being, they don't even listen to what I say, they just kind of stare blanky so I know they are thinking about that Iook like those actors instead of participating in a conversation. I really don't take it as a compliment either, because to me it's more like wow you resemble them, but because there's no professional photo editing and you aren't totally perfect you're like a slightly crappier version of them (is what's implied.) also after a while of hearing eachother say it, people get the idea that I look like them on purpose and they take it out on me like I'm the one who is annoying them. what can I do about

let me clarify the last part. by thinking of me as looking like someone else, no matter how good i look, i still won't look exactly like them, so it's not a fair judgement, as it would be if you thought of me as an individual. Maybe if you never saw jake gyllenhaal before you'd think I was good looking, but because you know what he looks like, you think maybe compared to him, my chin is too small, or some other superficial thing like that. Also yea, taking away someone's individuality is not complimenting them. Neither is telling a straight man, that he looks like a gay one, or a guy who plays a gay one is a really famous movie. so what would you do about that if it was you, and this happened to you everyday and everytime you meet someone new even outside of the united states?

If you walk away, you don't meet anyone. I do tell them I've heard it before. I gotten to the point where I can come up with th equickest comebacks you've ever heard in your life. I made a girl cry once, cause she said it to me, and then I said "yea and i bet you got jake posters in your room, and thats the only reason you're talking t ome right now isn't it, and you know what, you're not good looking enough for me" she had no rebuttle because i hit the nail on the head. same story for every last one of them. stupid drones. the problem isn't that people talk to me about it, its that they are thinking about it, instead of getting to know ME. They know I've heard it all already, they know it annoys me, and i don't like it, but they don't care. ugh.

Answer 1

It is not your problem. You are sharing too much energy with these people. Basically, you can't help your features. Be proud of them, sport them well and be happy. Don't give people the chance to dump on you. You just need to respond, no I am not that person and keep it moving (i.e., by walking away or by keeping the conversation focused in the direction that you would like it to go). Don't entertain the question(s) for too long. Act as if you've heard it all before and you don't have much time to take on the issue. They won't have a chance to dump on you. Unless, of course, you like all of the drama associated with your looking like famous people. Then by all means keep doing what you are doing. Best wishes.

Answer 2

Introduce yourself, and if they say that you look like some celebrity just say thank you and you hear it a lot. Then when you have done this they don't have anything more to say because they know you've heard it before. It is easier to just go with it to a certain point. remember people think they are creative, and when you show them that they aren't doing anything yuo haven't seen before then they typically quit. If someone asks you or implies that you are doing it on purpose looking like these men tell them it just the way you were born and say hey its not my fault blame my parents they must have known or something.

Answer 3

i would come up with a quick and short come back such as ' i get that alot but you know i am much more intellegent then them' then if they keep staring just say something like 'i know i'm having a bad hair day but i didn't think it was that bad' say it kind of snotty and it will catch them off gaurd and make the relize what they are doing of they keep it up they aren't worth your time.

Answer 4

walk away