I am very particular about manners, etiquette,cleanliness etc. I make frens based on thse things n their background and career. I am kinda introvert. With my frens, I go on and on and talk endlessly...and with others, I don utter a word..always on either of the extremes..I am tooooo frank and honest..with my opinions regd. anything...My frens say, i should change myself, since people generally form a wrong opinion on me that...I am snobbish ...and this is the reason, people find snobbish with loads of attitude and very unapproachable, which I am not...They say that I shouldn't be sooo choosy in making frens and while meeting new people. Though i tried my best to change myself, I couldn't. Am i wrong? If yes, How can I change myself? Plsss advise..
2006-10-28 02:46:24 · 3 answers · asked by Anu 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
you can't change your personality dramatically just on the basis of someone told you that they don't like it. there are flaws with everybody's personality, and that's what makes us human. also you shouldn't have to change yourself to impress the others around you. your personality is just what your brain thinks is appropriate to say and act. HOWEVER, if u want to change, than be determined to change, practice changing and it will just be a new custom to you and you will be able to adjust your thoughts into thinking differently. Most things just can't be changed and people saying that your snobby and being picky with friends and hard to approach. making them think that your not is hard because they already ahve that description about you and have to prove to them that you arn't by doing something you ahve to figure out yourself. it's hard, but not impossible, just need the right motivation like a girl or somethin to make it easier haha.
2006-10-28 02:57:21 · answer #1 · answered by flaming_ichigo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should have framed this question as"how can i improve my inhuman skills?"dont you think you are an unjust and totally undemocratic person and let me tell you ,this attitude will do you no good besides it will turn people off.see theres nothing wrong as far as you are frank and honest,but you cant be choosy on background bases that simply makes you a discriminator.its a violation to human act aswell.its not neccessary you make great friends with people you dont wish to but theres always a way to treat people you come across ,to respect them irrespective of their class.just a smile with a hellow can work wonders.i believe even if you have no penny to offer a begger just offer him a smile and he has earned his bread for the day.good luck.
2006-10-28 10:20:52 · answer #2 · answered by jane24 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a nice person there is no doubt about it. Keep the life mantra - love all. It will certainly work, but in long run.
2006-10-28 10:21:30 · answer #3 · answered by ars32 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋