2006-10-28 02:42:52 · 25 answers · asked by millijen715@btinternet.com 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Good question?
Tell your friends and family. if not speak to a councellor.
Because the worst thing you can do is tell him face to face. That will make him become even more controlling towards you.
2006-10-28 02:46:53 · answer #1 · answered by bluenose 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thank god he is just your boyfriend, and you found this out before you thought about marriage. Get away from him now, if you have to get help. The only thing that came good of this, is now you know what you don't want. If you stay with him, that is only telling you will put up with it. If you are scared of him now, believe me it will get worse. Loving someone is not making a person scared of them. If they can't respect you or be with you the right way you don't need them. If that person doesn't get help they will be that way with someone else. You may need help getting over being afraid of him. If you don't get out now, it will be so hard trusting someone else. Been there. It can effect you physically and mentally.
2006-10-28 03:46:12 · answer #2 · answered by CHEROKEE 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just do it. It is scarier to let it keep going on, I know from experience. Get the support of your friends and family an tell them in detail what is going on. You need as much support as you can get. It may be embarassing to let people know what you have gotten into but you need do it. If you think he will be violent have someone who can help you near by when you do end it. And when you have ended it severe all contact with him. Do not take phonecalls, messages, emails nothing. Change your number if need be. This is really hard but for as long as you are in contact with him he will have power over you. If you need involve the police. Get a restraining order put on him so he cannot come near you.
Do not let it go on for any longer than you have to. It is hard but letting it go on and living in fear is not a life to live.
2006-10-28 03:04:04 · answer #3 · answered by clare s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Their are many different approches:
Violent - Say you saw him with another girl slap him round the face and say your over although if your scared of him this might not work.
Caring - Say that he deserves better than you...and that you want to focus on your mind..and always remember to use its not you its me.
Dumping him by text may seem the easy option but it gives the impression of you being a coward and you don't want anybody thinking that another consiquence of this could be that it may be easier to do it short term but eventaully you've got to face your boyfriend...the easy way is the caring way however frightened of him you are.
2006-10-28 02:48:54 · answer #4 · answered by HELP ME PLEASE 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are scared of him, call him and do it that way. You don't need to take the chance that he will get violent. Tell him you need to take a break from the relationship for a while. Find an excuse - parents, school, work, friends, projects, whatever. But if you are scared, don't do it face to face and if you decide to do face to face then make sure there are other people you know around to help you.
2006-10-28 02:45:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anna F 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Make sure that there is a friend or relative close by that you can contact or run to if anything goes wrong. Also, ensure that everyone you know knows how you feel, so that they can tell him to back off, and give you support.
2006-10-28 02:52:29 · answer #6 · answered by ticket2ride 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to tell the truth there's no other way just to sit wit him and tell him that it's over because if you keep on telling yourself that you scared of him dat won't take you no were instead you'll be stuck wit him for the rest of your life so tell him were to get off again being scared won't help you
2006-10-28 02:50:33 · answer #7 · answered by survivr 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Send him an e-mail or call him on the phone and be direct not quiet. Threaten the police if he squawks. I've been thrown out of a lot of relationships and this usually works.
2006-10-28 02:46:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell him things are going to fast for you and ask if you can both be friends. Be sure you tell your friends where you are going. If you are scared for your health have like 3 friends out side the door listening to pretect you.
I hope it works out for you
2006-10-28 02:58:44 · answer #9 · answered by Tina D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when you tell him dont be on your own for starters,you dont wanna put yourself at risk,be calm and dont shout or be horrible about it just say that you think your both heading in different directions and you need sometime on your own to figure out what you want.leave it a couple of weeks and then just say that you believe that your better off on your own and that its not him its you,you just need time to find yourself and discover what you really want out of life.i hope i've helped.good luck x
2006-10-28 02:48:25 · answer #10 · answered by vicki 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋