should I have lowered expectations of friends in order to stop being frustrated with some of their ways?
2006-10-28 02:05:54 · 15 answers · asked by Angry Insightful Black 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
God, of course it's not wrong. Everyone categorizes their friends. Friendship comes in all sorts and sizes, so you'll always have a few best friends, some good friends, blokes or girls you hang out with, people you say hi to, etcetera.
The best and good friends you have the highest expectations of, and they are the ones that are willing to be criticised and will be able to adjust their behaviour accordingly, just as you will from them. The friends lower on the list you have lower expectations from, and won't disappoint you because there's very little to disappoint.
Once every two years I clear out my address book of people who I haven't spoken to since that time. Friendships come and go and grow stronger and weaker. True friends are still there in time of needs, lesser friends are only there when you feel good. And anyone of those friendships can surprisingly turn the other way.
2006-10-28 02:24:40 · answer #1 · answered by Jaco K 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO! It's never wrong to categorize your friends because some are going to be better than the others For instance, some will be the ones you tell everything and the others would be the ones you just hang out with. Don't become frustated with them, if they are supposed to be your real friends and you tell them that you are not cool on something they are doing, and if they don't try to change it then DISMISS THEM. Because in yo time of need they go turn they back.
2006-10-28 02:41:05 · answer #2 · answered by ADVICEGURL101 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Friends" come in different categories so I don't think it's unusual to compare them. You have people in your life that you call "friends" but they are actually acquaintances. Then, there are the close friends. Those are the ones who stick with you no matter what they know about you...they support you emotionally.
If you want friends, you have to accept them as they are. If you are frustrated with them, it's because you can't accept their behavior which is really none of your business unless they ask you to be involved. Good friends know when to keep their mouth shut and their minds open.
Some people do better with dogs. Godloveya.
2006-10-28 02:11:26 · answer #3 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone does it, consciously or subconsciously. The fact of life is that some friends are better than others while some are more like acquaintances rather than friends.
Should you lower your expectations? That all depends on if your expectations are unrealistic or not and you're the only one who can answer that!
2006-10-28 03:46:35 · answer #4 · answered by cgspitfire 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Categorization of things, people, virtually everything is a human trait. You can fight it but you can't stop it. Just expect people to change, because people, just like the world around us, changes inexorably. Take care.
2006-10-28 02:09:10 · answer #5 · answered by Mark 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Categories are just ways of identifying things. You don't have to keep your friends in their original categories in your mind, if they change. I get frustrated with my friends as well, but I try and focus on their better points. I'm sure our friends get frustrated with us, as well.
2006-10-28 02:13:23 · answer #6 · answered by The Mad Shillelagh 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
humorous you ask, I chosen to befriend an entire douche at right here and that i payed the implications, yet, i'm happy i'm rid of him now and characteristic discovered my lesson. in the event that they provide the effect of being to good to be actual, they probable are. humorous regardless of the shown fact that, it is so the day previous, I have been given over it precise away, because of the fact i found out it grew to become into greater his loss then mine. I do, regardless of if desire him each and every of the main suitable, yet i do in no way desire to hearken to from him lower back.
2016-12-16 15:47:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes but at the same time no. if you know your friends can take it then its probably ok. and why do you have high expectations for your friends anyways? theyre your friends! if you like them just accept them for who they are! if theyre being frustrating tell them that theyre being frustrating and risk them getting angry at you. or just plain suck it up!
2006-10-28 02:13:41 · answer #8 · answered by bubbleluvr24 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Friends are friends. nothing more nothing less. you have friends and you have acquaintance. there are those you know socially and those you know at work.
sounds like you need to figure out what you look for in a friend and then drop those who anger or annoy you..
2006-10-28 02:10:36 · answer #9 · answered by bluedanube69 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i have friends for different ocassions friends who i need around when im happy when im serious when im sad and of course when i mean business i've learned tah sometimes you can't put them all together if your anything like me i like different kind of people
2006-10-28 03:07:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋