Adoption vs Abortion?

Question

This is for those with unwanted pregnencies.
Why would you abort a child rather than make an infertile couple happy? I know it's difficult for those who find out their are pregnant and have no chance of bringing up a child but why kill it when you can give it to an infertile couple who will love him/her and give them a life they need?

This questions is not intendent to make fun of those who went through abortion, I might be completely against it but I only asked out of curiousity.
Thank toy to those who were kind enough to share their views

Answer 1

YES!!!! Like me......I'm 41 and cannot have any babies. I can't afford the regular adoption agencies that charge 30k. But some can and sometimes when you find a private adoption you can do it for only a few thousand , something I can afford.

Please consider us women who would do anything for a child.

It sickens me to see you take this so casually and not consider the good you could make out of your situation. YOu think its over when you abort it.. its not. You WILL face God and the child for it one day.

Do the right thing- turn it into a blessing!!

Answer 2

I'm sorry you have had negative experiences with being adopted. I was adopted too and really can't say I feel the same. I think when people make comments like, "Just have it and put it up for adoption," they minimize and dismiss the feelings of the mother carrying the baby. So, I don't care for that either. On the other hand, I don't think that people who aren't able to care in the way they want to for children should be raising them. It's bad parenting waiting to happen. And, I'm not in favor of abortion either. I guess in my opinion, adoption is really the best option for some people. It's not very often that I get to hear the other side of the story (yours) though I know it happens. It really makes me think. I wonder what we, as a society, can do to fix this problem. Every person deserves a loving family.

Answer 3

This is a very good question, and I feel the same way.

But, in looking at the other point of view, especially if it's a young and inexperienced couple that doesn't know what else to do, they might not have all the resources to a sucessful adoption agency, but there's always someone, somewhere, that will do abortions out the back of their house so that they don't have to go to a clinic.

Some others may feels jealous of another parent taking care of their child. I know a coworker that had an abortion for that reason. She took a lot of heat for it at work, but her reasoning was "I don't want anyone else raising my child". It's such a selfish way to view things, but people have their reasons I guess.

I definately agree with you though.

Answer 4

I am currently 20 weeks pregnant and this is a wanted child.
I have read people's questions on whether they should adopt or abort. I agree with you and think for those who are pregnant and the child is unwanted that they should consider adopting it to a couple who wants children but cannot have them. I thought I may have been infertile and was devistated at the thought I would never be able to raise a child. My husband and I spoke of the possibilities and adoption was an option. We are lucky and have conceived our own child, I can still feel for those who can't.
It would be a hard decision for the pregnant mother to make - the child didn't ask to be conceived everything deserves the right of life....

Answer 5

I personally wouldn't do either, but I think adoption is much better for those reasons, I went to school with an adopted child and she was given a great life from her (adopted) mother but wanted to know about her mother and blamed her (adopted) mother for been given up. Her sister was completely the opposite. I was only 17 when I gave birth to my son and I knew I just had to keep him, I think that if many of these women that abort carried there baby to full term maybe there views would change and they would want to keep their baby. Maybe that's why they abort, instead of bonding and feeling the love after the birth then giving the baby up. I think abortion shouldn't be an option without going through some sort of counseling to make the women realize they could be giving not only the baby a life but a couple who can't have babies. Every human being deserves to be loved and been aborted doesn't give that option.

Answer 6

I say adoption because I have seen the joy that adoption brings first hand. My goddaughter is adopted and her mother (who do to a very bad car accident years ago is unable to conceive) couldn't be happier. My goddaughter couldn't be loved more if she was her mother's biological child. However I know of a woman who said that it was easier for her to abort the baby than to have her child in the world with someone else and she not be able to see, care for and raise the child. Go figure!

Answer 7

I am not pro abortion, however, do you realize that 90% of the unwanted children out there never get adopted. they sit in group homes and foster homes-even babies. at least 75% of the unwanted children are unwanted by all due to aids, other illness, deformity, and behavior problems. not to mention the criteria to adopt, at least in america is so out of reach that even the wanted children do not get homes. plus because of science the once unable to have children can now have children or pay someone else to carry child for them. as nice an alternative as adoption is to abortion, it is still a very jacked up system.

you can give me a thumbs down all you want but do some research it is true. truth is hard to hear i guess and pisses people off

Answer 8

My thoughts exactly. Within 24hrs of concieving the fetus has a heartbeat, a human heartbeat. Therefore has every right to live and make it into this world to have loving and caring parents. Might not be the real mother, but certainly be raised by loving couples who can't have children. Pregnencies are a gift from God, a blessing and should be treated as that.

Answer 9

abortion is murder i agree i think you could have the baby and give it so some one who does not have children i really think if you don want children don't have sex as too many people especially teenagers find them selves in that position then have an abortion i know someone who has been trying for a baby for years shes to old to adopt at 38 and she really gets upset when she reads storys of people aborting babies for no good reason

Answer 10

I have a friend who was 16 weeks pregnant and miscarried..this was her 3rd pregnancy..she delivered the baby (and it was a baby boy) and we got to see him. Never have I seen something so small. He had all his fingers and toes..2 arms and 2 legs..eyes, nose and mouth. he had also developed eye balls, you could see where his ears were going to be..he was about 5 inches long and weighed next to nothing. I dont know how someone could ever say this isnt a baby and just get rid of it. It was so amazing to see something so small and yet so precious..Even tho he had passed he was still so precious to my firend. So I am totally agreeing--one should never abort their baby..If you dont have the means or just dont care to raise the baby give it to a couple that desires to have kids and is unable to..