what do you guys think of a cheater, if he can change to a better person?

Question

I personally believe that a cheater can never change. A cheater is always a cheater. It's their repetitive behavior. Unfortunately, nowadays, all most everyone is being trapped by liars or cheaters. Relationships have become a joke. My husband is the biggest cheater on the earth though he refuses to be one. At one point he can very really nice that no one would even believe he can cheat but there comes the second moment, i have seen the worst side of his personality. He is addicted to internet porn. He also chats with girls online. I know it is not totally wrong to watch internet porn as it can be a great source of pleasure but when you misuse it, you are at the edge of devastating your marriage or relationship. He spends like hrs and hrs online. He doesnt sit down and talk to me a lot. He prints out sex stories from online and keeps them in his wallet, i recently found that out. He sees naked girls,have different id's on the internet, and i happen to open his accounts, he'd add girls

Answer 1

Your name tells it all and i hope you have. He is sick and is not going to change. You would be better off sitting at home alone looking at four walls than living in a situation like this.

Answer 2

Been my experience that cheaters are liars and also thieves. They will always find someone that will trust them enough so they can continue there course. There is no changing them or expecting them to change is foolish. Your right internet porn can be ok for a single guy, married guys have no business surfing porn sites, or chatting with other women on line. If you know your way around the computer turn on the filters, if you don't find out how. I have a program that erases stuff on the computer and it will also wipe out the hard drive if you want to, mainly for reformatting. But the bottom line is it's not going to get better. He's a cheater....that's not cool in any life. If you have no kids, leave. If you have kids, leave with them and the help of a cop, and let him be with his cheating, lying, that is no example for a child to be around. Maybe his parents were cheaters, people usually learn through example. Don't let his actions rule your actions. You know that he is not right in doing what he is doing, remove yourself from his negativity, it just brings you down. To many things in this life that already bring us down that we have no choice but to deal with. A perverse spouse isn't one of them, you do have choices.....use them!

Answer 3

once a cheater is always a cheater and once a liar always a liar! if your husban cannot be faithful to you now no matter what he says he will never change...for a cheater and a liar old habits die hard and even harder since it takes them longer! in this situation you need to get yourself out of this unhealthy relationship in which your husband is cheating on you! if he cannot be loyal now how can he be loyal in 5 years or 10? he cannot! and if there is no trust which you lost for him then my advice is to move on...do it for yourself and that is the only way your husband will realize maybe now or later what his cheating has ended costing him: his marriage! wish him good luck with his next wife and get a divorce and move on with your life to better and greater things! no guy should lie, cheat or be secretive from his wife! he is stepping all over you and teh vows you made when you got married!

Answer 4

Why does he need those tramps when he has you? I unknowingly met a married man online and dated him for five months. I broke up when i realized he was married. It is possible that your husband might be sleeping with some of those tramps he met online. Is it Myspace you are talking about? I met that jerk off of there. i luckily had no sexual relationship with him however, I'm waiting til marriage.

How long are you going to put up with that crap? It is not right to let him play with your emotions like that. And a real man that fully understands the word COMMITMENT wouldn't flirt around with tramps online. Yes he can meet women offline, but it's easier to connect online and build up a phony relationship. I wish people were strong enough not to fall for temptation, it really causes unnecessary drama and heartbreak into a relationship.

Answer 5

It doesn't mean that he actually is cheating on you.....But, you both have so different personalities, why you continue this relation? If you married with someone, you spent a part of your time with your soul- mate to. Not because it's the right thing to to but because you feel you want to get close and find yourself beside the loved person. Don't wish to interfere to much but, just break up and start a new life .....
His hobbies showed that he isn't ready for marriage yet

P.S: If he want to change himself, he (very) probably had been done it already.

Answer 6

simple solution to the internet porn. Cut off the internet. It can ruin anyone and their marriage if you let it. It's easy to become addicted to it so you have to watch out. I don't see where looking at porn is cheating and I certainly don't see where talking to the opposite sex online is cheating but it isn't my marriage so you have to put a stop to it. Ya know being an addict is not an easy thing to turn off, so do it for him.

Answer 7

cheating begins with just being friends, than a few conversations, than all of a sudden he is in bed with her, and he doesn't talk to you anymore, it is as if he isn't really in your life anymore. you have no idea why he is picking fights, name calling, insulting you. you wonder where the man you fell in love with and married has gone.when the cell phone rings he goes into another room to talk. he is very distant. once you and he were friends, and could talk now it seems you can't say a word.still you hope it is just the stress of his job, and if you are non confrontal the trouble will just go away by itself.but than one day he out of the blue asks for a divorce, blames you completely, all you get is more insults when you attempt to reason with them. and than you see him with her, your dreams of reconciliation are gone, all faith in him leaves, and all you can do to feel better about yourself is to file for divorce and move on. you think that anything is better than this feeling of extreme sadness. but in time we look back on it, revisit it again and see that we made the right choice, we regain out self esteem, we find someone else, and we emerge from it a stronger and a better person.

Answer 8

The only way a cheater will change is if he/she loses everything and has to start over. That means he has to lose you. Wish him luck with his next wife and find yourself someone better. You probably deserve it.

Answer 9

i imagine it relies upon on the guy. the lads i comprehend that had a good intact relations growing to be up without understanding about their father and mom dishonest, finally grew out of dishonest, in different words they matured. men i comprehend that did not have a good upbringing nonetheless cheat and could continually cheat. obviously there are exceptions to each and each and every rule, yet it is a good starting up aspect.

Answer 10

A cheater is always a cheater.