To tell my kids when they are older that the're daddy would like them better and his family would like them better if the're mother were a different girl.A white girl that the family thought was prettier and a better match for my hubby?.........I believe it's the truth...would it be wrong to divulge this to my children?
2006-10-28 00:26:45 · 21 answers · asked by Direktor 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes it would be wrong to tell them that. When they get older it will be plain to them how their father (and his family) feels about them.
2006-10-28 00:32:40 · answer #1 · answered by Daddy Big Dawg 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you tell them that, and genetically they are half of whatever you are then they will believe that the family would be better off without them. Listen, I know your hurting. Your not feeling to great in the self esteem department. And since we don't know your situation, no one can give you that much quality advice. But if it helps I'm drawn to the exotic because I'm just your basic white bread too. Besides your personality that may have had an impact why you caught your husbands eye.
2006-10-28 08:26:20 · answer #2 · answered by delux_version 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't give the children a complex, life is hard enough on kids now of days as is. You can tell them that their dad and his family did not get along with their mom, but no need for graphic details.
2006-10-28 13:06:12 · answer #3 · answered by DownAndOut 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When your kids get older they just might figure it out for them selves kids are smart, and remember "what goes on in the dark always comes out in the light".... If I was in your situation I would tell my kids the truth when they got older... If that is what was going on in my family I wouldn't hide it from them... The sooner your kids know that everybody in life is not going to except them for who they are the better... You can't please everybody so don't even try...
2006-10-28 07:59:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't tell you children anything like that! They probably have enough problems of their own to deal with. No good will come out of you saying such a thing. Like yourself for the person that you are!
2006-10-28 08:01:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself this....
What possible good would come from doing that?? I can't see ANY good from saying that.
Why don't you focus on being the BEST mother you can be and WIFE for that matter and be alot less concerned with what others think of you. Its ultimately important as to what you think of you.
2006-10-28 07:31:28 · answer #6 · answered by coach_garry 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hey:
No, children should not be made to suffer the consequences of their parents mistakes, they should be loved and not be made to choose between their parents because they belong to both of them!If you tell them that then they will hat their father and their father didnot hurt them but he gave life to them -both of you did!
If they are meant to find out the truth they will, until them just give them love!
The only truth is that the parents can do no wrong because they are our parents!
Love SANAM
2006-10-28 07:50:47 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why would you say something like that to your children? Never tell them that.
2006-10-28 09:15:40 · answer #8 · answered by qi-li-xiang 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NEVER tell your children something like that. Their father and his family have severe issues.
2006-10-28 07:31:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your children are a part of you. If you are saying that their mother should have been someone else. Then you must also be saying that (they) should be someone else too. Right? NO WAY should you ever say something like this to your kids!
2006-10-28 07:52:08 · answer #10 · answered by Jane Smith 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋