i've put somebody to the test and my predictions have came true
i know this individual could never love me but why do I feel bad about it? I knew it then - I know it now. I won't go into detail because it's too long a story but he recently stopped showing any attention to me. Basically, I was hoping for him to say the right words and that would have solved everything but of course, I knew, he would probably never say them and he didn't.
so why these feelings of sadness?
(if you have any suggestions how to get over someone that would be great - but please remember that everyone is different and not all people can be that special to you even if you do grow to love them it may never be with the same intensity and emotion)
thanx
2006-10-28 00:08:46 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
Unrequited love is love that is not reciprocated, even though reciprocation is usually deeply desired. This can lead to feelings such as depression, anxiety, and mood swings such as swift changes between depression and euphoria. The expression is nowadays usually used in a negative sense, but even today there are many people who knowingly or unknowingly accidentally live in or even purposely strive for a frame of mind perhaps best described by that of minnesingers and troubadours in general.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Unrequited_love
2006-10-28 00:11:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes we hope for things to work out in the way we want,Sadness affects us all in life? Its good to feel . You wouldn't be human if you never expierenced sadness or happiness. Some peple are not as sensitive as another Emotions can get you all screwed up Pain is a gain Be strong and happiness will come . Maybe in another way. I know this is not easy only too well
I hope you find the other side of sadness its like the ying yang
in life good luck
2006-10-28 07:44:23 · answer #2 · answered by .................................... 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why the sense of loss??/ FEAR of LOSS for what might have been
Want to feel better?? Then know in all your heart and soul that for every second you are spending with Mr/Ms wrong you are giving up the chance to meet Mr/Ms right (NOT Mr/Ms RIGHT NOW either)
Stand up and go look in the mirror and tell that person you love them and that you deserve to have a great partner because you do!!!
"And in the end the love you make is equal to the love you take"...
Go make some love in the world and get some back, and be careful what you speak of.....the universe is listening and will give you what you speak of, so choose you words carefully!!
2006-10-28 07:19:48 · answer #3 · answered by coach_garry 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What test did you put him/her through? Did he or she know they were being tested? Was the test valid, in other words, did you set up a control test? Problem with testing love, is that you umwittingly set up the candidate to fail, especially with your predicition. For example, If this person loves me, he will open the door for me. You need to understand his reason for not opening the door and it may have little to do with love. Maybe he thought you wanted to open your own door based on past experience or assumptions. So he was wrong about your preference, but you may never have told him you prefer that he open doors. It is quite common that our expectations and predictions are not communicated, so our loved ones operate unaware. To test them on their failure at ESP is unfair and misleading to you. That he did not say the words you wanted may be tied to his own emotional hangups and not related to love. Did you tell him what words would make you feel better? Give up on the "if he really lovers me, then...." test. It will disappoint you.
2006-10-28 07:21:09 · answer #4 · answered by Victor 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Focus your attention on other things that make you Feel happy. And if you can not think of anything, then just look at things that are Being happy. Forgive Life, for all its doings, and enjoy the peace that surrounds you . Look at a bird or cat, or walk a long walk and feel the wind .
See things that are being happy, and see it for what it is, joy.
Do things that feel good. And you will feel good.
stay away from sad or negative thoughts, by staying away from sad or negative things.
2006-10-28 12:28:33 · answer #5 · answered by stuart_slider 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your feelings of sadness are coming from the loss of potential. It's human nature to want to share our lives with someone else, and when we think we've found that someone special and they turn out not to be, it hurts and it's sad. I think you're mourning the loss of the potential, not the person them self, otherwise I think you'd be more than just sad. Realizing that will help you heal more quickly so that you can move on and find a healthier relationship for you.
Best of luck to you, I hope you find that special someone.
2006-10-28 07:22:52 · answer #6 · answered by Laurie K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So you dumped him because it wasn't right.
You feel bad because he feels bad that you dumped him.
OK
But if you would have stayed with him, you would have felt a lot worse for a lot longer time.
And he's a guy so he has 20 targets on line.
Don't feel bad, you are going ahead.
2006-10-28 07:20:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
someone once told me the best way to get over someone is to spend time with someone else (rebound)...after I broke up an engagement that is what I found I had to do and it worked.
2006-10-28 07:46:25 · answer #8 · answered by chelles_insanity 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋