married man 33, well settled have 2 kids, family is back home for some time....i work in another country where my X (who cheated me b4 in our relation)is also working...i wish i can go back to her to lust/sex ......i am finding diff to stop myself from going to her...she wants me...to use me..for...money & sex ...how can i be bold enough to make myself stay away or get convinced that sex is not everything in life...outside marriage it can be trouble as well...I know all this....but still i wish i get her....please advice ....
2006-10-28 00:03:41 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Stay away from her,far-away.Your wife is working home alone holding a household down&raising your kids. If you go after this woman 2 have sex, that's where you'll be -"alone". If this female you're talking about was truly a woman she wouldn't touch you with a 10 foot pole. She has no respect 4 u, your marriage, or your kids-a real woman wouldn't want 2 come between that. You need 2 do a self-evaluation and find out what makes you weak. Your ready for some1 2 use you for money and seX---No1 should be using u at all.She was bad 4 u in the past and she still is. Sex is not everything that life has 2 offer,You know that. Stand up and tell this woman why sex isn't everything, -----------------scream if you must
Tell her ---I DON'T WANT YOU --YOU HURT ME IN THE PAST-I HAVE A WIFE AT HOME WHO LOVES ME THE WHOLE PAcKAGE--RESPEcTS ME-WE TOLD THE WORLD OUR LOVE ON OUR WEDDING DAY-I WILL NOT HAVE U TAKE ADVANTAGE OF ME-I AM A cOMMITTED MAN, TRUE 2 MY VOWS-I LOVE MY KIDS, I WILL NEVER HURT THEM--THIS cAN'T HAPPEN-
After all is said and done find some1 2 talk 2 while your over there about this issue, a professional.
2006-10-28 02:31:05 · answer #1 · answered by BK1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is hard to be away from your wife in another country by yourself.
Especially if your wife is good to you and love you and you have a great sex life it will be even harder to be alone you are not used to being alone anymore. So you have this urge to have physical closeness with someone. It is not worth it to cheat on your wife now. I know it looks and feels like your wife is so far away that you are so alone but say you give in and f*** this ex. When you do see your wife again how would you feel knowing what you did. And the moment when you see your wife again will come. She is going to expect you to make love to her and all you'll be doing is thinking how you had meaningless sex with someone you don't even like anymore because she cheated on you. Your ex just has no morals once a cheater always a cheater now she wants to cheat with you. Then you will be a cheater also.What if your wife ever runs into this ex and the ex tells her how you had sex with her when you were supposed to be working? Even if u cheat half way around the world these things has a way of finding you and your perfect life and turning everything you love the most to sh*t. Trust me.
2006-10-28 04:06:43 · answer #2 · answered by Chillypepers 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So your saying that you don't understand your own self worth, you don't respect your wife and your family many of efforts.. Your willing to over look the fact that even yourself knows that it not the best or right decision.... You completely doubt your own judgment... Your also saying, you can let something from the pass hinder your future. If only for a moment..... I think your smart enough to make the right decision on this... I won't even tell you to choose.. Just Analise the situation for what it's worth....
But in my opinion : I wouldn't give anybody the satisfaction to even think that they GOT IT LIKE THAT... And can even come in between what me and mine have.... Letting them think that, is only showing them that you haven't change... And that the person your MARRIED to is not better than they are... Cause you crept back.... Anyway I wish you luck...
Yes I'm sure your ex wants you she know you moved on and married someone else.............. But don't give her the satisfaction she had her time.... Tell her to push on and your not gone play your wife like that..................
Damn it really makes me think, cause I have a Spouse myself that works in another country.... And yes, I know it is highly likely that he may run into his ex.......... I would have to believe that he has enough faith and love for me, not to go back to somebody who hurt him.... Someone who old wounds I had to fix and work hard to repair and show that I would take care of the job..............
Anyway, I'm going to hope that you do the right thing..... I can go on and on... But it's only so much you can say on-line...
I wish u the best..............
2006-10-28 06:37:34 · answer #3 · answered by The'Truth 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you got two kids, that's child support, not to mention if you cheat, that's adultry and sposal support. That's alot of money that will come out of your pocket. Also remember how it felt to get cheated on? Do you think your wife will feel any differently? Think about, is it really worth the consequences?
2006-10-28 00:18:16 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you know your x has cheated you before and what she needs is only phyiscally, why would you want to do such thingt to hurt your wife and damage a happy family you have built up? Sex is not everything in life....stop giving yourself to have an adultry.
2006-10-28 00:37:06 · answer #5 · answered by vosy2006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
think about your wife and kids feelings.adultery is wrong if you truly love them you shouldn't have a problem staying away think about it long and hard cause losing your family is not worth a piece of ***.there is nothing more valuable then your family they should be the most important thing in your life.
2006-10-28 06:40:39 · answer #6 · answered by midnightheat110andholding 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way to avoid temptation is to stay as far away as possible. try to avoid contact with your ex, don't pretend you just want to chat or just have drinks if you know where it will lead, be strong!
2006-10-28 06:08:12 · answer #7 · answered by DownAndOut 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yal , you think what would it hurt sence you are so far away from your wife. but you have to live with yourself...an this will haunt you the rest of your life! stay faithful to your wife an don't be used by your ex.
2006-10-28 03:39:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay away from her. If you start thinking of her think about your kids. Is it more important to have sex or lose your kids......
2006-10-28 02:38:24 · answer #9 · answered by Julie J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You already know the answer. To grow a set of balls and stop cheating.
2006-10-28 00:49:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋