why the sense of loss if...?

Question

i've put somebody to the test and my predictions have came true

i know this individual could never love me but why do I feel bad about it? I knew it then - I know it now. I won't go into detail because it's too long a story but he recently stopped showing any attention to me. Basically, I was hoping for him to say the right words and that would have solved everything but of course, I knew, he would probably never say them and he didn't.

so why these feelings of sadness?

thanx

Answer 1

Expectations my dear,humans have a tendancy to expect things from people around us .If the expectations are fulfilled then we are happy if not then we are filled with remorse.In your case u can be called a total romantic fool or an emotional fool.I tell u people like u often suffer just because they like to suffer after inflicting pain upon themselves.When u knew from the word go that things would not change then why wait for them to change.Well its high time u realise the same and not limit your world to that person alone.Stop the practise of showing self pity and extend your arms to welcome others who will love u care for u bestow u with their love,take a deep breath and put the feelings of remorse behind u and feel the freshness in the air to start over once again. BUT PLEASE DONOT HAVE ANY MAJOR EXPECTATIONS FROM A RELATIONSHIP and thats when you'll find happiness in the relationships otherwise the same old routine will start again.

Answer 2

I think anyone would feel sadness when they find out a relationship they want just will not happen.

I would be very surprised if you were not saddened. Not knowing the entire story I don't have much to go on. I will tell you that even if you can't see it now that sadness will go away. Hopefully then you will remember things that will make you smile.

I realize this doesn't really give you much of an answer but I do hope it will let you know you are not alone.

I wish you many blessings. As always I will say a prayer.

God bless!

Answer 3

You put him through the TEST and he didn't say the right words. Are you sure?

I can just see some guy wondering what happened. You should be able to talk to this individual. Not expect him to read minds to solve everything.

Guys are not real verbal you know. sometimes they show love by actions rather than by words.

i think you should both try talking.

Answer 4

You cared for this person and then find out they did not care the same for you. Of course you're going to feel sadness over this. Life goes on with or without them and in time, you'll be alright.

Answer 5

Dont worry..your feeling like this way because maybe you expected something out f that guy..
Leave him cz he is of no use to you..so just enjoy your life.
N remember....NEVER EXPECT A LOT FROM PEOPLE...because most of the time theses expectations are too much too ask for..n when we dont get what we want..we are left sad.
Goodluck!

Answer 6

you feel sad because you cared for this person, and they did not return it, but relationships are risky, even marriage is risky.you have lost your faith in this person and it does hurt, to know that it will never be what you wanted it to be. but on the bright side maybe he just isn't right for you, and maybe it is best that it happened this way, because when one door closes another opens for us.