married man 33, well settled have 2 kids, family is back home for some time....i work in another country where my X (who cheated me b4 in our relation)is also working...i wish i can go back to her to lust/sex ......i am finding diff to stop myself from going to her...she wants me...to use me..for...money & sex ...how can i be bold enough to make myself stay away or get convinced that sex is not everything in life...outside marriage it can be trouble as well...I know all this....but still i wish i get her....please advice ....
2006-10-27 23:59:02 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If the feeling is that strong, there must be a reason!
2006-10-28 00:13:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anarchy99 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you have a serious problem. Don't get me wrong but inside your mind there are some " demons" ( hormones) which can not be controlled. If you are just locking for an advise you probably end being disappointed.
By the way who is "X"? Your ex- girlfriend/wife? It 's easier to give totally freedom to your desires, you noticed that, but this is about responsibility. Think about it, you just write that this isn't OK- it is an uncomfortable situation for you.
You also write that marriages have their own problems. This is true, but what brings you more mental stability in a long term....?
Another question, for you only: How do you get along with your wife? If you believe she would understand talk to her and then go have some consulting sessions with other people who have the same problem. Its important to hear especially their opinions to find out how they handle the situation and learn new ways to discover the "truly you". Unfortunately you don't have that age enymore when we can move on, searching for the fun and pleasureof tomorow....Understanding what I mean?
You don't feel good in this "you" and want a change in your life.
If you don't get along with your wife, you don't talk to each other that kind of intimacy and you are afraid you could lose her by teling the truth....keep thi secret to you , but still talk with a psyhologist, he would tell you more about what you need to now. Recognise that : "I have a problem, ans defenately I need to change all this, to become a new man!"
You got to believe in your chose! The rest will follow....
2006-10-28 07:40:13 · answer #2 · answered by Night Sorrows 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you have a real problem here. First of all what is the real problem. I think it's a wife that needs sex right now, you need it too. So, what are you asking us?
Your wife cheated on you and now you want to cheat on her? you don't want to go to her....why?
I think you'd better take another look at your life Buster, there are kids present. Who's taking care of them while all this other stuff is going on?
I think you'd better see a counselor or an attorney my friend.
2006-10-28 07:07:16 · answer #3 · answered by cowboydoc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That reminds me of a little joke I seen where man was standing there naked and God was talking from a cloud and said " Oops, I made woman smarter than you. Here is something that will think for you." And then God shows man a male organ.
Think about that.
You better stick to Ma Thumb and her four daughters.
2006-10-28 07:33:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear:
Just think about all the good times your wife and you had together and remeber that if you cheat she will be hurt and in pain!Think about if you could bear to see her cheat with someone else and what you will do in that suitation!
Think about God and how u will be sinned, think about your kids if your wife divorce you!
Just occupy yourself in sports or something else! You are a good man and continue to live with pride!Sex is not everything, Love is!
Sanam
2006-10-28 07:14:02 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think of the consequeces of losing wife and children.If you need more help with a visual watch the movie CLICK with adam sandler,it will make you realize what you have in your family,quick go watch this movie i promise it will help you!!!Good luck!!!
2006-10-28 08:54:50 · answer #6 · answered by melissa_froggies 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself what is more important: A few hours with a woman who hurt you by cheating, or your marriage?
If you care for your wife and kids, you won't hurt them like your x hurt you.
2006-10-28 07:05:08 · answer #7 · answered by Holden 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is she worth losing your family back home! THINK MAN BEFORE YOU BECOME A BIG LOSER -just for a little bit!
2006-10-28 07:04:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just think about what she did to you before. Also it's not smart to Shag somebody you work with, especially your Ex.
2006-10-28 07:36:37 · answer #9 · answered by Daddy Big Dawg 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
GOD'S good book say's resist the devil and he will flee. turn to GOD
2006-10-28 12:35:51 · answer #10 · answered by newpeanut2003 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋