i m a male, since past 8 years i love a female 'First', but for the last 7 years i am married with female 'Second', Both the females love me very much. I have continued relationship after my marriage and even my wife knows about my previous affair and the continued relationship. I love the first lady very much. Now its long time...the parents from first female are forcing her to get married. Its difficult for me to leave her and even she cannot live without me...we are facing a very uncomfortable situation and not ready to accept whats happening in our lives. We love eachother very much but i cannot live my wife cause even she loves me very much and it will be difficult for her to live without me...WHAT CAN I DO. I want to live with my first girlfriend without her i cannot think of a moment.
2006-10-27 23:24:13 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
all the mess is created by you only. when you were already in love with th first one y did you marry the second one, and if you married second one why did you continue the relationship with the first one. you are infidel, neither faithful to first one nor to the second. I can't understand why your wife is living with you? r u very rich?r u very handsome?
well solution has to be find out. see i suggest you let her get married. and stop seeing her, after some time this passionate love will let the way to mature love. You will be having love for the first one forever, but your yearning to see her,meet her would subside. Though it is very difficult but you have to do it for every one's sake.Do you have any child? if yes then it is bigger responsibility for you to bring up them,make their future.Don't devastate their life along with your life. BE MATURE, OWN YOUR RESPONSIBILITY LOVE YOUR WIFE, LOVE YOUR KIDS.THAT'S LIFE, ANY OTHER WAY IS DISASTER.
2006-10-27 23:51:53 · answer #1 · answered by kavita b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wake up and you are trying to be selfish to your legal wife. You had already an affair and not trying to be good to your own wife?
You have to let her go ( the first GF you had but not getting married). Let her free and try forget her forever, You should concentrate and try to love your 2nd GF the girl you got marriage. If you do not, How selfish you are? Holding two females at one time? Well, you are fortunate of having understanding wife, are you waiting next time that she will be the one committing painful revenge out your immorality? Are you waiting that she will look an affair herself? What will be happen to your marriage if she cheat?
2006-10-27 23:35:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are just being greedy. If you love the first girl so much then why did you marry someone else. You are not being fair to your wife or the girl friend. Let the girlfriend go to open up the door for someone else to make her happy. I know she loves you but neither lady is truly happy with this situation. Believe me I know I was once the girlfriend.
2006-10-27 23:30:01 · answer #3 · answered by D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a really weird situation. First, if you can be married and still love your first girlfriend, why can't she get married?
And second: do you think it's correct to be involved with both women? This sounds a lot like bigamy to me... I know it must be hard, but you have to choose between your wife and the other woman.
2006-10-27 23:33:21 · answer #4 · answered by ralu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both of those women should kick you out. You are the scum of the earth.
You should not commit adultery. If there are children, you should take care of them by working long hours....and if you were at work you wouldn't have time to mess around.
2006-10-27 23:31:11 · answer #5 · answered by debbie2243 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have two choices, either move to a state/country that allows multiple marriages or choose one of them. Hopefully, you will get one of them after all this mess is over.
2006-10-27 23:36:03 · answer #6 · answered by hazeleyedbeauty1967 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OH BROTHER! First of you you are NOT doing what is right for anyone involved. You need to end it with BOTH women and go to therapy and learn to love yourself before you have any realtionship with any woman. if SHE CANNOT LIVE WITH OUT YOU SHE DOESN'T LOVE HERSELF EITHER AND SHE NEEDS PROFFESSIONAL HELP ALSO, LIKE YOU DO! I pray to GOD there are no children involved in this mess!
2006-10-27 23:30:18 · answer #7 · answered by angeleyez1956@verizon.net 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So wat y u thinking of one relation only... u can remain as very gud frndz wid each other,,,look dear u dnt wana spoil ur wife's life rite.... u r already married,let first female get married,let her settle.. u juz njoy each moment of ur new life... itz difficult i know but d thing here is ur wife loves u alot, & u dnt wana losse her.
BEST LUCK!
2006-10-28 00:36:33 · answer #8 · answered by ur frnd 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
move to utah ,become a mormon,then marry the other one and have two wives.
2006-10-27 23:29:00 · answer #9 · answered by super stud 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they approve, you should have two wives
2006-10-27 23:43:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anarchy99 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋