Since 3years i am in love with a boy who is in U.S. i met him through online became best friends then turned to love soon. He asked me to do nursing i have tried a lot after finishing my degree, so i plan to join for nursing next year but in todays news paper i read that nursing diploma courses are going to close. i cant do Bsc nursing coz i did 12th commerce and i am a graduate in commerce, if i want nursing i can take only general nursing diploma but indian central govt passed an act to stop general nursing course. so i am not seeing any other way to do nursing, my boy friend is saying if you are not a nurse i wont marry you. I am so mad about him, i will die for his love but he is not trying to understand me, he want me to do nursing he is not interested in another course. his family will allow only a nurse to marry him also he is interested only in a nurse. i hail from a financial sound family with educated back ground, i dont know whether my dad will support for this marriage but
2006-10-27 22:26:18 · 12 answers · asked by ann m 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i dont know my family will support. me and my boy friend are of same religion, same caste and mother tounge but a difference is education. actualy i am not interested in nursing coz hate to see blood and hate to se opertations but for my lover i was ready to do but now indian act is like this what i have to do...?
2006-10-27 22:28:20 · update #1
I met my boy last year ...and lost v..nty i am so depressed.... i dont know what i have to do.... should i leave him.. but its not easy to forget him....i cantttttt but i dont know whts the other way...before getting married with him he want me to complete nursing course but under new act i cant do nursing in india...
2006-10-27 22:30:49 · update #2
I am going to say something you are not going to want to hear. You are way too good for this guy and should dump his butt. No one who loves you, REALLY LOVES YOU, will try and force you to do something like be a nurse or I wont marry you. You obviously have talent and interest in business, so pursue a business career. I realise you feel so strongly about this guy but there are times in our life where we have to place our wellbeing above our feelings and this is it.
2006-10-27 22:36:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really want the best for him, move on with your life and allow him to move on with his. There's a child involved now, and he and the mom owe it to the child to do the best they can to provide a stable family. Don't contact him to "get something off your chest" or anything like that..... at this point in time, telling him you still love him is putting a stumbling block in the way of the path he needs to take to be a good dad. If you really care about a person, you probably don't want to tear them up inside like that...That's definitely not the way to go..... whenever the subject comes up, particularly if you speak to any mutual friends, just state that you wish him well and hope the baby is healthy. No matter what happens with the ex's relationship, you will still be able to keep your dignity. PS- Regarding your additional details... as you mentioned, you don't know for sure that he doesn't know it might not be his child (in fact, you don't know for sure it isn't his child). Perhaps he truly loves this lady and doesn't care if he's the stepdad. If there is a serious chance that the child is not his and everyone knows it, leave it up to his friends or family to address the issue with him. It's not any of your business and you wouldn't want to make him so defensive about the issue that he won't listen to anyone.
2016-03-28 09:55:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
travel to America and finish your nursing we need nurses here in fact many hospitals will pay for your collage to become a nurse if you agree to work for them for a certain amount of time. That way you can be near your love and really get to know him many people are different in person than they are on line hope you are not in for a surprise Good Luck.
2006-10-27 22:32:29 · answer #3 · answered by setter505 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u must rembr onethng...luv will really make people mad...for each other...and In luv main thng is understanding each other,,i know that its not easy for u to seperate from ur boyfrnd...
But if he cant understand u frm now itslf..thn it will be a big prob in future...
If u can understand him well..and is ready to suffer for him...Thn sure u can go ahead....
And before going behind his wishs try to udenrstnd the reason for wht he is asking u to join the nursing course,,,
now nursing can earn more enuf money too...
R u sure that he is not behind money...or any status...
becoz in luv there is no mattr of education...
the only main mattr is the boy is able to look after u and he is lovable..honsty..etc.........
If u sincrly want to go for this nursing...bettar contact wth any university near u...
and be confrmd wth all the facilities too...
2006-10-27 22:38:46 · answer #4 · answered by SSS 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
while your being mad over him, who's going to be mad about you obviously, not you. sometimes we have to make hard decisions in our lives.sounds like your giving up all your opportunities to find out who you are and what you want out of life, for love. would true love be that demanding of you. I am a nurse and it's a great field to work in, if that's what you want, but life is so hugh you could be a lawyer, banker,doctor,professor of physiology, physics or psychology,etc. why just nursing. it's your choice, but will you give up all that you could be to be all that he wants you to be?
2006-10-27 22:55:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He took you virg****? And now he is back in his country the good ol USA with his girlfriend and don't know how to tell you to get lost. Nobody in the US force there kids to mary people for their professions. Wake up and smell the coffee girl. He is hoping that If you find it imposible to get to the states, he won't have to deal with you. Love hurts everybody goes through it sometimes. It will get beter and you will get over him I swear.
2006-10-28 07:00:50 · answer #6 · answered by Chillypepers 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well... he will marry yu only if you become a nurse.. this is indeed a weird precondition... specailly when u hate bloods.. you can never be happy if you become a nurse..how can u think of being happy with him when u r not have with urself..
think about it before taking any decision... because at times love makes you do things that you never wanna do but makes you happy at the end but .... but ... at times it makes you sad also at times....
2006-10-27 22:35:34 · answer #7 · answered by hi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guys sounds like a drag! Do what you want to do as a career and find someone who will marry you no matter what your career is.
2006-10-27 22:35:45 · answer #8 · answered by retorik75 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him about the government and tell him you will work on it in the USA when you join him. Then don't and either he will accept what you do or you can find another who does.
2006-10-27 22:33:24 · answer #9 · answered by Red 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If that's his only reason for not being with you, it's probably because he wanted you to have access to drugs to support his habit.
2006-10-27 22:28:29 · answer #10 · answered by bezsenný 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋