i was married at a young age to a graet man with a huge family, life was too worst and is still and i cant come out of the marraige coz my husband is a darling.,i have 2 kids,i am not educated,only 10 th, my parents dont support me ,my husband does not want to seprate and i am sick of living a life in a jail,i dont have freedom nor friends to help ,and i am confused where, if i have married my husband or his family ,god can u please help me to come out of this jail unfortunatly i too good took at so i can run away too and then my kids are there too
2006-10-27 22:18:06 · 7 answers · asked by rita 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
=if your husband is such a great man you should be able to discuss your feelings with him. Sound to me like you are really stressed out with this situation. I would have a physical as well and share what you are going thru with your doctor. If you go to church there is someone there than can listen to your distress as well. I know it is hard having ids, especially if they are young. How about getting a puppy and going for walks. This can be very helpful as well.
2006-10-31 14:35:52 · answer #1 · answered by sunshinysusan 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I too felt the same way a few years ago. I am only 27 and my Husband is 15 years older than I. We have Three Children and I am pregnant with our Fourth. I married when I was 20 but living with my husband since I was 18 but never started dating until I was 19 going on 20. My husbands family is big and so is mine but like you my parents don't support me. I have always supported myself working on properties and in shearing sheds as I am from the bush. I love my husband very much and my kids who are all under the age of 5. I too only completed Year 10 but I have always been fairly confident in my English and Crammer. Try what I am doing at the moment a course at home through TA FE. There are many ways to get out of the rut you are in. Get a dog so you can take it and the kids for a walk to the park or go for a walk with the dog yourself get the kids babysat or something you need fresh air, sunshine, peace and quite to think and reflect on the good things in your marriage and how you can improve your general well being. But reading into your Question I really think you should speak to a Councilor.
2006-10-28 06:47:14 · answer #2 · answered by jd_knny 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, hard to follow cause of your communication skills being so poor..
But if im understanding correctly u married a great man with a good family.. and have 2 children with him yet u married him only because of the Convience to u, being poorly educated and not having money u saw him as the Way out.. but now that u have the security u wanted.. ur not happy and feel trapped cause u obviously didnt live the life u perhaps should have..
Kinda selfish of u all the way around...selfish of u to marry for all the wrong reasons and selfish of u for wanting out for the same reasons and taking the children along for the ride of your disfunctional life u've chosen..
My advice to u , is to get ur butt back into school.. go get ur GED.. take the classes ect .... and go to the community college and take some courses to move towards better educating urself.. even if it means starting from the bottom and working up..
It will give u an outlet, something to work for and meeting people so u wont feel like ur living in such a "jail"
and it will give u self confidence in urself.. but it will take alot of time, effort, and hard work to achieve.. but its very possible if u want it badly enough.
2006-10-28 05:31:02 · answer #3 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your answer is in your question when you said "God please help me" I have know idea what problems exist within your marriage but open your bible to Malachi 2:16 you may also want to turn to ephesians 5 I reccomend you read it entirely. Do not throw away your life and hurt the people who love you. Your confusion may be coming from mid life crisis believe me I know it can be difficult. Put your faith in God and that "darling" husband of yours you mentioned. Remember the vow (promise to God) you took and make a commitment to make it a wonderful marriage to the man God put in your life. We all make mistakes, he doesn't! Communication , commitment are the key. Use that to find out what's missing that is making you feel this way. Satan loves quitters and losers , DO NOT let him move into your home. Life does come with an instruction manual Please Use it! God Bless
2006-10-28 05:53:59 · answer #4 · answered by oohaygators 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well according to my view you have to listen your heart and think of your children as you your husband is a darling then talk to him tell your feelings freely and save your family, friends and people will help you for dew course of time but your husband will help you forever.God will bless you and your family.
2006-10-28 07:54:08 · answer #5 · answered by Jatin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you need to call the county Court house or child services and ask them about programs for a single mother they are out there you just have to ask about them you can IM me if you want I am going through a ugly divorce my self an know how valuable it is to have some one to talk to good luck sweety
2006-10-28 05:25:01 · answer #6 · answered by slick o 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't quite understand your question....
2006-10-28 05:21:28 · answer #7 · answered by qi-li-xiang 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋