what do you think of manipulative/intimidating people?

Question

who always want to win and compete with you in everything. who don't give you a moment's peace. who want to make you feel degraded and worthless.

who also have more than they deserve, because their conceited ways get them far.



let's say you work with these people or always see them.

how far do you go to to resist them?

Answer 1

I dont... I tell 'em to shut up and get the F out of my face.

Answer 2

I have had to for 17 years, my mother 18 years.... the person in question- my father... You cannot resist people like that after years of taking it. soon, you start to die inside. Limited amounts of time are different, but after a long while, or a lifetime (in my case), it can make a person socially reclusive, and hard to get to know. It hurts.
Get out of the situation if you live with them. I have to rebuild my emotions because of it.
If it is merely a co-worker, try to out do them, I would, but I am ultra-competative. They need to be knocked down, but subtlely and peacefully. Try not to argue with them, or get into debates with them. they will always try to dominate you, or make you look stupid.
That is about all I can give! Hope that it helps you!

Answer 3

I don't give them any power over me, certainly not to make me feel degraded and worthless. I work with a lot of people like that, just let them have at it and go about my business.

Answer 4

By not allowing them to visibly affect you, you could combat them in a way that is untouchable! the ultimate defeat! a battle of the wills and yours was fought and won with the under armor of integrity! Put on your turtle shell and let their antics be deflected of your back.
Seriously these ppl can get only so far, because meanwhile while they are self absorbed and busy harvesting their own personal meaning from the demeanment of others..you could be sharpening your skills, focusing on your goals, and improving you work habits...
then! its a case of the turtle who beats the hare!

Answer 5

Grin and bear it. I had such a close friend once, and have known others, so now it is like just another humility to me, no big deal, easier handled than some things.

Bearing it does not mean caving in; bearing it means doing what you have to do in spite of that one. :-)


I don't know about "their conceited ways get them far." Never heard of that before.

Answer 6

when you let things like this bother you become what you call a (hater) and you dont want to be that. As long as you do what you think is everything you have then nothing else matters.Nobody can make anybody else fell anything. Be who you are and nothing else matters as long as your comfortable with you.

Answer 7

I feel that these people have such low self-esteem that the only way they are able to feel better about themselves is to try to make other people miserable. They put others down to try to make themselves look better... it really has nothing to do with any other person except themselves. They are overly needy, crave attention and rather selfish and just do not feel good about themselves at all and will go to any expense - any limit to try to get that attention and to feel better - of course, at others' expense.

I do work with a woman like this and I learned not to bring the stress she tries to give me home with me and instead of actually letting her get away with her bs anymore, I started to tell her how I felt - like Jen.. why don't you talk to my boss about that and if she has a problem with it, she can tell me to change that, etc. I started to stick up for myself. I have always been someone who avoids conflict and confrontation at all costs but I learned that I still can while telling someone they don't need to talk to me like that - that there are ways to say and do things. I just stopped getting upset about it and while she got herself all excited and po'ed all of the time, I would just start to smile and laugh - but not too overly sarcastic - just ok thank you for your opinion. In other words, kill 'em with kindness. Don't take it to heart - at all, in any way.. just know why they are doing the things they do and acting the way they do - once you understand it, you will realize that you should not let them get to you. I kind of pity her in a way - she has no control anywhere else in her life so she tries to excert some control over others at work even though she is not my boss at all, she must think that she is. I started to not let her get away with it - I started to tell her that she did not have a right to speak to me that way and I had to meet with my boss on some occasions to speak with her to tell her to stop - you have to tell these kinds of people they can't treat you like that - disengage them.. do not give them the attention that they are seeking and just try to be nice to them and seriously - ignore anything else they say. They may move on to someone else. This woman at my job kept doing it because she saw me react and while she will come back with a vengenace sometimes, overall it has gotten much better.

:o)

Answer 8

I like to keep my distance from these types of people, if I have to deal with them I just deal with them as fast as possible and go about my business.

Answer 9

i just let them go on their tirade, because if you have to brag that much about what you are or what you have, then obviously nobody else cares or notices. i know what i have and what i've done with my life, buti don't need to go around telling everyone about it. don't let them get to you!

Answer 10

i have had to deal with my fair share of these dipwads, and i say what goes around, comes around. they will get theirs, maybe not now, but someday when they least expect it.