is divorce the only solution to an unhappy maaried life ?
2006-10-27 20:23:58 · 31 answers · asked by kaka_v 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I would try marriage counseling before throwing in the towel.
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2006-10-27 20:25:32 · answer #1 · answered by ~*bUtteRFy~*~kISSeS*~ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your question is almost impossible to address. If you're going to dispute the solutions offered by the group, you should at least offer up a question for us to address. Sometimes divorce is the obvious answer (the asker is admittedly already at that point), sometimes it's not. But it's so situation-dependent, that you can't simply say "you're all to quick to suggest divorce" without citing an example question. Second, interesting how your entire premise is that people are too quick to suggest divorce-- that we're making sweeping, assumptions about marriage. And yet you go on to make sweeping, untrue allegations about men (men are manipulating and degrading women?). Divorce should always be the last resort (except in cases of abuse)-- but your question takes a strange way to get to that suggestion.
2016-03-28 09:53:03 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That all depends on the cause of the unhappiness. I spent the last year in an unhappy marriage because of issues of my husband's daughter from his first marriage. We didn't divorce because of it. Sometimes the cause of the unhappiness lessens to a degree with one can deal with it or goes away all together. On the other hand if a person is absolutely miserable and there isn't a particular cause for the unhappiness, then maybe it is time to part ways.
2006-10-28 03:05:30 · answer #3 · answered by neinmom2one 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Good question. Why did you get married in the first place? Was it because you got her pregnant or because you and her were all in love at the time and nothing else mattered? If so, then divorce might be considered your first option. Now if the two of you thought about all aspects of the word marriage and considered your financial and spiritual outlook before you said "I do" then I suggest you pay attention to the part in your vows when it said, "...Till death do us part". Try counseling or seriously talk with each other about the root of your unhappiness because marriage isn't a shirt you can buy and just put on and take off as you please.
2006-10-27 21:01:13 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, it is not the only solution. It's the final solution, once all of the other solutions haven't worked.
The other solutions are in couples therapy. If both partners want to make the marriage work, then therapy can do it.
Still, a divorce is always better than a life-long unhappy marriage.
2006-10-27 20:26:41 · answer #5 · answered by Ciaoenrico 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends the reasons for the unhappiness. For example one of the spouses cannot live without having sex with other people, then you may want to consider divorce (unless you are swingers of course). If the source for unhappiness is bad communication, then you may want to work at it before getting a divorce. In other words the question is why are you unhappy. If it can be fixed, then do not divorce; if it is too much, then divorce.
2006-10-27 20:29:24 · answer #6 · answered by jasonheavilin 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No that is not the only solution. Happiness or lack thereof is a state of mind and if u are not happy in your marriage for whatever reason, u can always choose to work on it. Although it seems that some people would rather get a divorce than put in the hard work to make their marriages last. Afterall, marriage is work.
2006-10-27 21:06:24 · answer #7 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course it isn't the only solution to healing an unhappy marriage. Try talking, conversation can open up areas that need healing. Counselling is another option where a third neutral party assists you to work on the issues that are harming your marriage and can teach you the art of making it work.
2006-10-27 20:27:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No divorce is the worst way to deal with a marriage. You can get your councilor to help and if you live in the east you can get your elders to intervene. In a marriage there are lots of ups and downs. But people do not understand why down. Think this was the most beautiful, Sexy and a woman full of virtue that you thought no end of and you married her now you think of divorce. In Gods eye it is sin
2006-10-27 20:30:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talking with each other and really having a heart to heart, say hey things are getting pretty bad we need to talk make plans for the future, so many couples have no plans for the future so they are not working as a team to accomplish something, and THERAPY/COUNSELING really does help, my husband and I have gone 2 times in our 16 years of marriage, it gives us a change to vent in front of someone who is not partial and helps us to get on the right track again. Many Churches offer free counseling, if not your insurance should cover it with just a co pay of about 20 bucks. Good Luck DIVORCE is NEVER the 1st choice.
2006-10-27 20:28:33 · answer #10 · answered by whattheheck 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
as you 've already read, there are many ways, and maybe you've even tried some of them..my opinion, is, do whatever is going to make you feel the least better, more free and happy or even slightly satisfied, from an unpleasant situation, as you are in now, and unpleasant and unwanted thoughts. ofcourse, the most important thing, is for you to analyzeand understand WHY you live in an unhappy married life... the reasons will lead you into a wise decision.
2006-10-27 21:08:56 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋