Okay... I know this topic has been discussed a lot. But this is different. this has possibility. He is only 8 years older than me... I'm 15, he's 23. He asked me the ages for sagatory rape... he stares at me during class... he gets all flustered when we talk. Look... I know this is crazy... but he got engaged tonight, unless his girlfriend says no, in which case she's mental. He's amazing, though... in a few years, this could actually work if she said no or they split up by then.
He's leaving at the end of the semester... should I try to stay in touch with him to see if this will work out later, or does anyone have a way to forget about it??? I mean, I do amazingly in that class... but I've gotten really depressed over his damn mixed messages and the fact that the only two reasons we're not together are the age gap and his girlfriend. Neither of those may mean much in a future... please... anyone???
2006-10-27 20:19:30 · 19 answers · asked by Emmi 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
okay... just to add on to that, she's like the second girl he's dated, and I'm afraid it's just a comfort thing for him...
2006-10-27 20:27:49 · update #1
i can understand how you feel because i once had the same thing going on but then i realize that i didnt want to ruin his relationship with the gf and him. he got engaged no? that doesnt mean he likes you and im very disturbed by the age gap...now if you are like 17 then maybe but hes your teacher. Lets not forget that dear. Its not right..I know you are not dumb or anything you seen the teacher student troubles on the news. Theres a line here and you cant cross that unless you want trouble. I can understand how you feel but what about him...What is he thinking? I would say no please dont pursue this...and hes taken...all i can do is suggest to you please dont...keep yourself busy while in class dont associate with him too much hes your teacher think about it ...or suggest another teacher to teach you you can request a class change.. Im sure other teachers teach the same thing. you need to be reasonable here ....
2006-10-27 21:01:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is trying to tell you something HE IS NOT INTERESTED.
"He asked me the ages for sagatory rape" he is making sure that you know it is not a possibility
"he gets all flustered when we talk" He doesnt know how to tell you to back off
"he got engaged tonight" HE IS GETTING MARRIED to someone else ... he asked her ... NOT YOU
"should I try to stay in touch with him" NO
"does anyone have a way to forget about it"
Yes, when he moves away forget about him, you are 15, this is a crush ... it happens and I know you are grown up enough to let this go. A relationship between you right now is WRONG and ILLEGAL. You would be ruining your future, there is no point thinking about a relationship in the future ... life is happening now. You may not live to see your future.
Find something you are good at (sports studies?) and spend all your daydreaming time focussed on that ...
2006-10-27 20:28:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him alone, anyone that would screw with a 15 year old at 23 is not right. When I was 23 I would never do anything of the sort in a million years. He has some issues and maybe you dont understand now but when you are 23 you will! Remember this then!!!
2006-10-27 20:25:35 · answer #3 · answered by thespeakeris tooloud 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hey c when u say the age gap wont matter in teh future ....ur 4getting tat when u r 23 he is not still gonne b 23
he will always b 8 years elder to u
and tat may cause a lot of conflict
its not true love !! find someone of ur age !!
he is engaged to someone !! be happy for him tat he is happy !!
i think its rather mean tat u want him to split up with someone he really seems to like ......or else he wudnt get engaged !
c move on !! i guess he likes u cos ur a gud student in his class !
remenber he is a teacher ! outside teh class rom u r pure strangers !
plus u dont even noe him !! mayb he has a big ego !! hu noes !
move on girl !
all the best tc
2006-10-27 20:25:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
All right I stopped as soon as I read you're ages. He's only 23 he's not old BUT he can and will be arrested for dating a 15 y.o. The law says you're not old enought to consent to a relationship. Stay away from him for his sake at least!!! Let me just add if you have never heard of Jailbait, you are the definition
2006-10-27 20:22:48 · answer #5 · answered by uknowme 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are, sorry to say yet to grow up. Only 15 and a lot is in your mind. Get rid of the notion and wish your teacher as well as his Girl friend a very happy married life. You can not live your life hoping someone would fail somewhere so you can step in
2006-10-27 20:25:03 · answer #6 · answered by R C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know do you really want to be with someone who would potentially shirk their professional responsibility as an educator. Think about it. If he is dropping you hints because he is interested, I find that highly unprofessional. If a guy doesn't respect his own job, how do you think he will respect you? Be cautious.
2006-10-27 20:22:59 · answer #7 · answered by alwaysmoose 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
forget abt it
let the crush fade away slowly
or just keep it only as a crush
dont een think abt expressing ur fellings
2006-10-27 20:23:48 · answer #8 · answered by manojverma231988 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh you poor stupid child your thinking to much into it if the guy really has some sort of crush on you that's all it is because for him to act on it would be immoral and just plain ignorant.
2006-10-27 20:22:59 · answer #9 · answered by JOhNe=mc² 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its statutory rape and if he had to ask you what the ages are then hes pretty stupid, let the loser go.
2006-10-27 20:28:28 · answer #10 · answered by saturn 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋