Hey well first off I'm not gay, bi or curious. I don't know how the hell it happened, but it did. We were celebrating the engagement, and were drinking alot. So the next morning I woke up, and my fiance's dad was next to me naked, and I was naked. I know what you're probably thinking. How do I know anything happened. Trust me I know. I don't remember everything that happened, but I remember some. I think somehow I got so drunk that I mistook her dad for her. I don't know what was up with him, but he was really drunk to. So anyway when I woke up, he was still asleep. I just got dressed, and left. I went home right away, and took a long cold shower. I can't believe what happened. I don't know what the hell I should do. I don't believe in keeping secrets from the people you love. I just don't know how or if I should tell her about this situation. I also don't know how to face her dad. I'm hoping that maybe he'll be so drunk that he wont even remember. Someone please help
2006-10-27 20:04:54 · 17 answers · asked by Matt Harris 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
ummm....hang on.....yup I just threw up in my mouth again. Dude seriously! I hope and pray that you are only making this stuff up. If not then you are one messed up individual. I have never ever ever never been so drunk that I mistook a dude for a chick. EVER! oh man that is gross. hope you like therapy cuz you are going to be going for a long while. and as far as telling anybody. read these words and burn them into your brain. NEVER NEVER NEVER TELL ANOTHER LIVING SOUL WHAT YOU DID. If your future father in law brings it up DENY IT. Block the incident from your memory. If your fiance finds out, you can pretty much forget about a wedding, she will dump you then tell the whole world what you did. Good luck getting a date after everybody else finds out.
2006-10-27 20:16:27 · answer #1 · answered by smitty 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, first thing you need to is quit the drinking. Now and forevermore. Since alcohol is the cause of this debacle and you can't seem to control your judgment while under the influence you have to stop. You probably won't but you need to. How much of a family resemblance is there between dad and your fiancee? You guys sure must have been beastly drunk and hammered!
Next thing you have to do is tell your beloved what happened. She may even be able to fill you in. At any rate, you need to clear the air. As for dear old dad take your cue from him. He may want to forget it ever happened. Or laugh the whole thing off. Some joke. Whatever you do don't try to run away from it or fix the blame on anyone. You're going to have to wait and see what happens next and abide by the results of your actions.
2006-10-27 22:23:35 · answer #2 · answered by quantumview 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You deny remembering how your future father-in-law and you ended up naked in the same bed. You say you were drunk prior to that. In my opinion, either of the following could have happened:
1) There were a lot of relatives from out-of-town and your fiancee's dad had to give up his place in bed to a female member of the family.
2) The guy had his doubts about your manhood and wanted to find out on his own.
3) Dad has a secret crush on you and could not resist a passionate farewell.
4) The opposite situations (2 & 3) could also be.
If you were both so drunk as to have had a memory loss of the episode, it is most probable that there was no sex because neither could have responded to any stimuli. Did you notice any pain or tenderness in your anus? Answer yes, you were penetrated. Answer no, nothing happened. In either case, shut up! Wait and see what happens next. No drinking with Mr. future in-law.
You don't mention ages, religious or educational background. Is your father-in-law to be a widower or divorcee? That could make some difference in the feedback you get in this forum. No date mentioned either so I assume the wedding is close if there was an engagement party.
If you talk, I think you might as well cancel the wedding. It's your word against her dad's. Besides, the guy WILL NOT ADMIT anything of the sort in public.
If you love your fiancee very much, don't even think of giving hints about what happened. She just won't forgive you nor her dad. Besides, she will be profoundly hurt by such a revelation. You can marry but keep away from in-laws as much and as far as you can. You do say,however that you "don't believe in keeping secrets from the people you love".
Just think, Matt, the scandal is going to bring such shame to both families that someone IS going to call off the wedding. It's up to you, nobody can decide for you. You either live with the secret till death makes you part with your bride or you don't marry her. If you decide to speak up, move out of town because you will be branded for life with the "g word" on your forehead.
Observation: Fiancé is a masculine noun for bridegroom to-be; fiancée is feminine, bride to-be. Misspelling foreign words can lead to misinterpretations.
2006-10-27 21:40:59 · answer #3 · answered by latinoldie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this is truly serious, which I'm doubting it is, then you need to tell her. This is a secret that will tear the two of you apart. Take responsiblity for your actions, being drunk is not an excuse. I don't know if your relationship will survive something like this or not, but I really don't believe that this is something that you should keep from her.
2006-10-27 20:09:50 · answer #4 · answered by sunshineandsilliness 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to call off the wedding. I don't believe you're gay either, but you have a serious drinking problem if you're having blackouts- you've been drinking for longer than just one party.
You will not be able to take care of a family until you get your drinking under control.
2006-10-27 20:10:07 · answer #5 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you were to drunk to remember ,,, then nothing happened,,,, the little man won't function while passed out drunk,,, sounds like ya just had to good of time..... I wouldn't tell anyone else that story.... as far as your dad in law watch out he may be the only one coming down the isle,,,with a Vail on
2006-10-27 20:12:57 · answer #6 · answered by S h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me such as you dont believe her in any respect..holiday it off and uncover anyone that you'll be able to believe. Thats a gorgeous critical and messed as much as believe she might sleep together with your step dad, allow by myself a different guy.
2016-09-01 03:50:54 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off...I don't care how drunk I ever got, at my worst, this could never happen. Having said this, pretend it was a nightmare. It never really happened and if ever confronted, deny it. It's his word against yours and what would motivate him to claim such a victory? lol Unless, he is also in the closet, right?
2006-10-27 20:20:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that by mistake the all things had been done.I am sure if she loves you,she will forgive you.Don't hide anything.just think if she will come to know that by any other person. then? she will never trust you. so the right way is tell her all things.and say sorry for that.I am sure if you explain her the metter she will forgive you.ok? All the best.God will help you.But remember don't do this secondtime.
2006-10-27 20:28:40 · answer #9 · answered by Ishi 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Boy are you in a pickle... I dont believe in keeping secrets from the one you love either but ..... I wouldnt know what to tell you on this one??? Sorry Best of luck
2006-10-27 20:09:12 · answer #10 · answered by ohio_gurl042 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋