It's an old question, and yes, I have looked up passed answers to this very question, but I am stil a little unclear. I guess I want a personal response to the horrible and intense pain I am in- for support really, too, but I must ask: How do you stop loving or make youself STOP loving a person?(When it is clear- cause they TOLD you, that they don't love you back.) I realize my relationship is over and will never work, cause only one of us truly seems to want it to work, and so I ended it, but now I am stuck with the broken heart, cause I can't just turn off my feelings for this person. Does anyone have any recommendations on how to just STOP loving the person. I don't want to HATE her, I just want the hurt to go away, that is why I feel I would be better off if I could STOP feeling love for her.(cause I KNOW I can never have her- meaning be in a relationship with her.) Any suggestions, please? A step by step plan would maybe be best. Thank-you.
2006-10-27 19:59:23 · 1 answers · asked by asylum07 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Oh my!!! I know how you feel!! I've been there and got out of there. Here are the steps how i stopped loving the person.
1. I cried - A LOT. No shame in doing that. It released the pain. My world practically stopped.
2. After 2 weeks of crying... I worked - A LOT and HARD!!! Busied myself and practically buried me with work. At the same time, I engaged myself in sports. I've been passionate with badminton... I focused myself with work and badminton.
There were still plenty of times that you will still feel for her. This is normal.. You stop for a while and then go back to work and play.. Just don't stop working and playing.
3. After two months.... you will be used to living without her....This time look at yourself... Focus on yourself... Maybe you will need a haircut.. a change of look...
4. Go to the place where your ex frequently visits...See if you are strong enough. If not... go to step 2 and 3 again.
2006-10-27 20:23:13 · answer #1 · answered by witch_27_mc 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do you stop loving a person, well if you truly love someone as a person you always will. It is just that the type of love that you have for that person will change, and will feel less intense for you will think about it less. I have loved men and I have loved a girlfriend that I grew up with we were like sisters, and she did something very bad, I felt like a part of me was missing, we knew each other for 20 years but she did something so bad I would be little myself to be around someone that could treat another human being that way, and I don't talk to her but I still love her in my own way. Forgive that person and yourself for anything that is on your heart or mind. Forgive that person for not understanding how to express love, it hurts that person in there whole life more than you in the end. Focus on yourself and your growth as a person, know that in the end whether it is 2 years from now or 20 you have to live with yourself in the end. You are the only part of the equation that does not change, so learn to love yourself and you will always fill full. Take yourself out, take a class do something that makes YOU happy and stop focusing on the other person. Whatever you focus on expands and that includes feelings as well. Succeed in your life to the best of your ability because success heals wounds. And let time pass that heals wounds also. Plus there are billions of people on this planet that can love you just as much as you love them back. Take care, peace and love
2006-10-27 20:12:34 · answer #2 · answered by thespeakeris tooloud 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
We fall in and out of Love all the time. And there is nothing in this world that says you have to stop loving this person. Your heart feels what it feels and No matter how much you try to change it, it is still gonna feel what it feels.
Now there are measures you can take to get over her without feeling Betrayed or left out. These things would be personal actions Like Massage Therapy, Meditation, Self Therapy or even Passive Therapy, Mind body and Spirit. If you really want to over come the hold she has on your heart, and you know it will never workout between you, You have to believe that the Help you recieve Physically and emotionally as well as Mentally is really helping you and has Healing properties.
2006-10-27 20:22:42 · answer #3 · answered by orchid2800 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No answers from me. You can't stop loving if you truly love. And I do for no reason. If thats sounds weird, well maybe it is. I just do and I always will. It's real and intense and will last forever. It was a gift and I cherish it and good luck to you if you have this kind of love. If not, it will go away eventually. I know plenty of people that got over it with no problem and moved on to bigger and better things. Not me though. It's special and so am I for having it.....
2006-10-27 20:07:05 · answer #4 · answered by silhouette 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
RE:
How do you stop loving?
It's an old question, and yes, I have looked up passed answers to this very question, but I am stil a little unclear. I guess I want a personal response to the horrible and intense pain I am in- for support really, too, but I must ask: How do you stop loving or make youself STOP loving a...
2015-07-31 00:40:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well...first I would Iike to say that I am sorry for the pain you have in you at this moment...I went through the same situation last month....you cant jsut automatically stop loving a person...if you know what I mean...depends how deep and how long the relationship was and also how much you loved her...let yourself feel free..try not to think about her...and your past moments with her..that would just make you want more of somthing that you already know you cant have and that would lead you to a worse position....go out...meet new people and try to make the best out of it however do not compare the new ones with your old girl...somehow the old ones will always look and seem better...but in reality your mind is blured with the past and your not getting the present anywhere.....my ex boyfriend would of answered your question better (his totatlly over me )but this stuff just made me forget how my past two years with him have been..i think if you let go of the past...soon your love for her would disappear.....i hope i helped
2006-10-27 20:13:35 · answer #6 · answered by Mololina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been asking my self that same question ever since my love walked out the door I too don't get how just one day they wake up and shut off all feelings for a person I keep telling her how i feel in hopes that she will return to me when deep down i know she won't the pain is more and more as each new day dawns i know what you are going through and it is very hard if you ever need to talk email me or im me i am here for you.
blessed be
white wizard
2006-10-27 20:07:15 · answer #7 · answered by white_wizard07 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you just have to find things to take up time n your life. I truly believe that if you ever REALLY loved someone you will always love them, and if you can stop loving them you never really did.
2006-10-27 20:24:31 · answer #8 · answered by Crazy n Confused - PHSYCO 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow.. if she was you're first love it can be hard to get over the 1st one or you never do. she may say she doesn't love you anymore, but you still love her. be friends with her, that will help. maybe once you do that it'll help you to stop loving her... it just may take awhile. I'm in love with a friend of mine, but i don't think she loves me back and my feelings aren't going away anytime soon, even though i haven't seen her in almost a year.. it does suck though. love is tricky and very annoying.. i hope my advice helped
2006-10-27 20:06:15 · answer #9 · answered by angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Texting lets you control the tone and establish what kind
of conversation you want to have. This is probably the most
important part. With texting, you can STOP and THINK about
what you want to say to your ex at each step of the way. Instead of
reacting emotionally, you can take your time, figure out the right
thing to say (I’ll give you most of it), and be strategic with your ex
without saying something that you’ll regret.
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2015-08-18 21:25:54 · answer #10 · answered by Sylvia 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋