I have so much hatetred for my mother in law. It seems like she says and dose things just to hurt me. I just don't talk to her anymore because I just can't take it anymore. But ofcourse my husband dosen't have a realationship with his mother, because he defends me, and takes my side. He hasn't seen his family in five years. I think that is so sad. Her latest thing is she is getting in the middle of things that she really shouldn't be, because really it isn't her buissness. But like I said I don't even want to waste the time and call or email her, because it gets me nowhere! It just gives her more opportunity to say hurtful things. What should I do?
2006-10-27 19:58:34 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Why asking what you should do if 1) you are already went seperate ways 2) you know the outcome if get involved.
It is sad but he made the same choice as you. He obviously has same view and should make it much easier on you knowing you have an agreeance in your marriage than having a conflict as you can have a problem with him not agreeing with you.
Do what been doing. Stay out of it.
2006-10-27 20:09:33 · answer #1 · answered by Mutchkin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should have told her that! Send her a letter and advise her of what you just said, that; her son is not seeing her because of the arguments between you and that you fell that is an injustice to her and him. That, if the two of you can not be civil to each other than she and your husband should visit either at your mother-in-laws home or anywhere else away from you and your home. That you do not want to be thorn between your husband and her; but, that you love him and he is your husband now. and not her little boy. Also; that no further attempts to communicate with her will be maded unless you both can agree to not interfer with each others moralities and life styles..
2006-10-28 03:13:07 · answer #2 · answered by denfasr 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
though i am a minor and my parents get along with the in-laws, i would say you should just have your husband stand up for you, like he is. Also you may also want to argue, but in a civilized matter. I mean like say, do you really think so and then come up with a respectable arguement. Also tell her that you guys are family and kin, and if you hurt the other, you hurt yourself
2006-10-28 03:10:58 · answer #3 · answered by jenniprncss 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look mem, You should forget all the things she did with you. And give her the chance.IF her mindset as to hert you.Then why you leave your positive nature.You should try to change her by your harmless love.And tell your husbandh to do so.All the best.you will surely win her.Love is a most effective weapon to win anyone.Ya in begining you have to face some difficulty but at the end you win.And your sucess remains forever.
2006-10-28 03:19:15 · answer #4 · answered by Ishi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as your husband supports you in this decision and doesn't blame you for his lack of contact with her, then I wouldn't even worry about it. Make sure your husband knows that you will not be upset if he chooses to communicate with her, as it is his mother after all. If he has so easily avoided contact with his family for five years there were issues WAY before you came along.
2006-10-28 03:01:43 · answer #5 · answered by sunshineandsilliness 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
same here things just seem to get worst,i have 2kids & one of them had a b-day not so long ago & they didn't even call to wish a happy b-day!!but the salution is not to even allow them to start insulting you, you see i was once very nice to them but it all changed when i got pregnant they thought i was some little brat that didn't know how to defend herself but as soon as they saw that it wouldn't get them anywherethe backed off &no one over here talks to them!!!anymore....just talk some real bad smack to her face &believe me if she don't back off she'll definatly stop looking at you!!!!!
2006-10-28 03:07:51 · answer #6 · answered by love2 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say your name is SMITH.... Tell her to back off! She is the old Mrs. Smith, but you are the new Mrs. Smith and it's time for her to retire!! She can run her mouth and HER household, but you are running everything else! good luck
2006-10-28 04:10:06 · answer #7 · answered by just another answer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, having been through this before, ignore it, until she decides to be a big girl and keep her mouth shut.
2006-10-28 03:01:18 · answer #8 · answered by raven_roycroft 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell your husband that he doesnt have to stop his relationship with his mother because of your difference.
2006-10-28 03:02:46 · answer #9 · answered by ya girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you're doing it. Just keep your distance.
2006-10-28 03:00:47 · answer #10 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋