said he was sorry he cheated affair lasted 8 months he was sleeping with me getting out of bed going to her then he would screw her come back home before i woke up get back in bed with me i was paying for all while he went to school taking care of his needs he was calling her while i was in the room pretending it was his male friend i found out left after 2 mths of emotional abuse/turmoil i got my own place he threatened suicide i call 911 they locked him up overnite in the psy unit he went back to work and was calling me leaving messages at home cell work i had to get a restraining order against her for harassing me (she happened to be his supervisor) apparently 1 day after she tried to run me off the road he told her he loved me not her wanted to work it out with me pissed her off he told me im all he wants i let him stay with me thought i could do it but cant still lying and wont work unless i pressure same old crap now he says im cheating he says will kill himself im dumb
2006-10-27 19:57:29 · 20 answers · asked by hamhead 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You already know the answer. You said it yourself. Same ole crap.
He wasn't thinking of you while he was doinking her. He's sorry now cuz he's lost out on your support.
First of all, I'd have him document the affair in writing, including naming his mistress. Tell him you want it in writing so he can't go back on it. Then send him a certified, return-receipt-requested letter telling him not to contact you in any way, shape or form or you'll consider it harassment. Take a copy of his letter to HR and have it put in your file as a CYA from his supervisor.
Don't EVEN buy into the "I'll kill myself if you don't take me back." His guilt is NOT YOUR ISSUE.
2006-10-27 20:15:43 · answer #1 · answered by messageboardjunkie 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Caroly J, honestly, LEAVE THIS MAN ALONE!!! He needs help. He first of all feels sorry that he cheated and basically got caught up. Now what he probably didn't think you would do is leave him alone for good. Now he needs to be all melodramatic and show his rear end (for lack of a better word) to try and get you back. Don't fall for it. Be strong and keep on moving. There is not point in being with someone who is going to cause stress to your life and that is all this man seems to be doing. And a word of advice, someone doesn't tell you if they are suicidal or have intentions on harm theirself, they just do it. He is a cry for help. Maybe he needs to deal with the fact that he actually hurt you and now you are ready to move on without him. Hope this helps!
2006-10-27 20:02:26 · answer #2 · answered by Patty J 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
He's trying to control you by telling you he's having suicidal thoughts; a friend of mine went through the same thing.
He messed up.. well that's his problem to deal with. Move on with your life. Be careful.. people like that can do crazy things.
2006-10-27 20:08:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aight look. I'm going to be blunt about this, as I am about everything... He doesn't really love you, or he would of NEVER cheated on you. I know what true love is, and I would NEVER cheat on my babe. But in any event... He is not a man. Remember a man needs not a woman for happiness but to add on to a happy life already.
2006-10-27 20:12:46 · answer #4 · answered by thaheartoflife 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My wife cheated on me 3 times,,,, I know of,,, the last time she left the family,,, I forgave her each time,,,, I was a fool I just gave her the support until she found the right guy,,,, she also accused me of having affairs,,, keeps you on the defensive,,,,, dump him move on ,,,, the suicide thing ,, he is working on your emotions,,,, just make sure his life insurance policy is paid and your the beneficiary ;)
2006-10-27 20:05:20 · answer #5 · answered by S h 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
drop him like a soiled diaper, he is just using the i can't live without you to make you feel sorry for him and stay with him. nobody needs that crap in their life. he is using you and you are letting him do it. break away from him now
2006-10-27 20:05:15 · answer #6 · answered by smitty 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
its late and your in front of the computer (yeah i know i am, but thats irrevelant.) Seduce him and focus on your marriage. Throw away your computer and go to counciling. Good Luck. You deserve better, but always try to make it work first..
2006-10-27 20:00:35 · answer #7 · answered by jswolpers 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
take a chance, ditch him and the drama girl, you diserve better than that right, flip your hair back and say ba bye.
2006-10-27 20:04:39 · answer #8 · answered by 7am gangster 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Break up with him! You can control what you do but you can't control him! If he would treat you this way then he does not love you. He only loves himself!
2006-10-27 20:01:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell him it just isn't working and he needs to move on.
2006-10-27 20:02:36 · answer #10 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋