I'm married, only lil over one year. The relationship is great, we still have a great connection, and are still lovey dovey with each other, but we rarely have sex, which is a huge problem for me, cause i love sex, but he thinks its overrated and doesnt want it all the time... im talkin like 3/4 times a month. Im only 25 by the way...
2006-10-27 19:35:48 · 15 answers · asked by Lady 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sounds like you guys are good friends first and thats great ! Try little things that you think might turn him on. Leave little notes around and set a sexy mood ! Play using your Lady "Powers". A lot of men love a powerful lady !
2006-10-27 20:40:33 · answer #1 · answered by blondee329 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gee, I wish I knew the answer to your question b/c as a woman I have had this problem since I was your age and as of recent strayed from my fiancee (a once a monther) with a fantastic lover that is too far away, but apparently likes it everyday. I really think you just have to find a man with a similar appetite for sex or go for some sexual counseling, but I really believe peoples sex drives differ. If I could make my ex fiancee a fantastic lover that wanted 3 x per wk or more I would have the perfect man. Sad, but true.
2006-10-27 19:43:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a question you should ask my husband. We married when i was only 17, and we would have sex 2/3 x a day, now, married after 8 years, it is only 2/3 x a month. We are still very happily married, but he does complain sometimes. He doesn't get it often, but when he does get it, I make it worth his while. I'm only 25 too.
2006-10-27 19:43:56 · answer #3 · answered by cds21681 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to try new things when you have sex, make it interesting for him and fun, try different positions and things like that. Or you could get some toys for yourself and take up the slack? or get a boyfriend? find out if he has a girlfriend? All guys like sex more often than 3 or 4 times a month. There is something wrong somewhere.
2006-10-27 19:46:57 · answer #4 · answered by orlin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ummm.... Is he getting it somewhere else. That is a scary thought, but think about it for a second unless he has a serious medical condition. It is a medical fact that guys have to produce sperm which in laimen terms have sex or masterbate. The sperm metaphorically builds up then explodes out like a volcano, without sex or masterbation that can't happen so he is having sex just some of the time he is having sex you just might not know about it.
2006-10-27 19:42:00 · answer #5 · answered by Kristy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in the same shoes as you, and I know exactly how you feel. Men gets comfortable and lazy after marriage. As for my story we both work long hours by the time we get home we just want to call it a night. I am not sure what your story is...Have you speak to him about it? try to play hard to get for awhile and see if he will persue you. You said that your husband thinks sex is overrated what reason does he feel that way? good luck.
2006-10-27 19:51:45 · answer #6 · answered by uniqaznmeg 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
was it like this before the marriage?
what made it change?
ask him or talk to him about it.
if he refuses then how about letting him know this is a great concern for you and you would like to take it to professionals for help, counseling or just go yourself to get some professional insight.
i know what you mean. i was there before. he did not want sex a lot from the begining to the end. we ended up spliting up, not cuz of that but cuz he had some issues from his past and that could be why his sex drive was limited.
sometimes its stress, deseases, or his age.
then there was my other guy, 2 times a month for 2 and a half years. but before we moved in together it was everytime we had a chance. we did split up cuz he sucked anyways besides the lack of sex. this is when he turned around. now he wants to have sex all the time with me after we split up so who knows what these dorks are going threw. it just sucks that they put us threw it.
2006-10-27 19:43:39 · answer #7 · answered by beachgirl90 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
does he have a highly stressful job? if so that can cut down on a man or a womans sex drive. he may just be getting old, could be a health problem that he is not aware of. try talking him into going to the doctor and getting a checkup.
2016-05-22 02:33:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the same deal. I don't know quite what to tell you, but hang in there. Sometimes you have to go through dry spells (for lack of a better term) I hope things get better for you. (I'm 26, by the way)
2006-10-27 19:40:44 · answer #9 · answered by tankgirl190 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow 3/4 times a month.
not to be an a** are u sure he isn't gay?
cause that sounds more like a great friendship.
2006-10-27 19:41:17 · answer #10 · answered by jesse james 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋