and today she was talking to him for hours on the phone. I told her that it hurts me to see her talk to another men still she didn't stop.
I don't know why i love her so much that I cried like crazy and she had no emotions or anything, she is sleeping in the seperate room.
She didn't had sex with the guy she cheated me with. She said she might come back but she is more inclined to go towards him. If I want to win her back what is the best thing I can do. I helped her get a good job so she makes more money then me but that guy makes like 1/3 rd of what she makes. she told me she was confused and he is an illusion for time being. I don't know what to believe. What should I do, should I try win her back or move on.
She said she will let me know if she stops talking to me and if she wwants to come back. Should I keep myself hanging. I used to tell her that the day u make enough money u would leave me, I think i knew her character and this is what she did. started cheating with 2 months
2006-10-27 19:07:32 · 26 answers · asked by peter 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am very sorry for your situation but in my honest opinion, the marriage was over for her before she actually cheated because as u say...she had no emotions whatsoever. I don't think she is confused as she claims to be. I think she knows what she is doing.
I know u want to fight to win her back because u love her but the fact is, if she doesn't want to be with u, there's nothing u can do to change her mind. She has to realize it on her own.
At the same time, there's no use putting your life on hold for someone who obviously has commitment issues and if she is as shallow as u made her out to be, then I suggest u just move on with your life the best u can.
2006-10-27 19:17:44 · answer #1 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't have a lot of control over what is going on.
Try and distract your self so your not pitiful.
Go out do something, get away while she gets the F out.
Get mad at the situation and don't let a woman play you for the fool again. After she is gone do something for yourself maybe like to improve your self.
Poor yourself into your job or pick up a second job.
Sounds like you really didn't have much of relationship to begin with and you are more upset at the IDEA of missing her.
In the future be a little more real with your self about how good the relationship really is. You must have been fooling your self.
2006-10-27 19:45:04 · answer #2 · answered by Red 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok.. first of all.. Stop being a damn doormat and find some ballz, and let her know this isnt exceptable and if she doesnt want to live like husband and wife then she needs to hit the door.. SHE should be on the begging end and not u.. although i know u love her and your heart is breaking, the only chance u have at getting her back is by basically treating her like crap.. sorry but its true.. right now she's using u as a security blanket, waiting for things to work out with the other guy so she can leave u once and for all.. as soon as she knows he's a sure thing.. U need to suck up all these emotions that ur feeling and start treating her as if u dont care what she does, ignoring her, go out have a good time with ur friends, even if ur crying in ur beer, as long as she thinks that ur moving on and having a great time, and u could care less what she's doing.. 1. it helps emotionally prepare u for the worst case scenerio her leaving all together, helps regain ur confidence if u start taking the power away from her, and 2. It will make her feel like shes on the jilted end, and well NO ONE likes to be the dumpy.. so beat her to the punch.. if u want this to stop and her to be a loving LOYAL wife again thats the only chance u have, cause even if she doesnt leave u now.. while ur kissing her butt .. she'll do this to u again down the road.. as soon as the next guy peaks her interest..But u being clingy and u spoiling her, only empowers her to keep doing this to u, mean while destroying ur self esteem and empowering her ego to the point that she can treat u any way she wants and u'll put up with it..
SO START ACTTING LIKE U DONT CARE, START ACTTING COLD TOWARDS HER YET CIVIL JUST BE SHORT WITH HER, IF SHE CALLS U FIND EXCUSES TO LEAVE HER HANGING.. like oh sorry i have another call will have to call u back, and then supposively forget to call her back, make her chase after you.. Even people who sware they want out of a relationship, ones that claim to hate their bf or spouse and are just waiting for the right time to leave, if the other person leaves them.. although thats what they wanted, they fill jilted.. and they end up getting upset wondering what the hell happened.. and start boo hooing over the fact that they left them.. Alot of women tend to be territorial as well.. they dont want the man, but they dont want the man to be with anyone else either.. So maybe if shes lead to believe theres a possiblilty of u moving on in that way as well will snap her out of her "HOLIER THEN THOU " additude.. but DONT sit there and beg for her to come back, dont be puddy in her hand.. thats what she wants, shes feeding off the power, and the ego trip.. 2 men vying for her attention.. she's loving it.. time to flip the switch and put the ball back in ur court..
2006-10-27 19:20:43 · answer #3 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry for your pain. I know you must be incredibly hurt and confused. The best piece of advice I can give you right now is don't let this be her decision. It's not her decision whether or not she gets to come back....she cheated on YOU. As much as it hurts, it sounds like she doesn't love you like you deserve to be loved. Please do yourself a favor and let her go and don't let her come back. Only then can you start to pick up the pieces of your life. Good Luck & God Bless!
2006-10-27 19:20:30 · answer #4 · answered by milldan65 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
by way of fact the youngsters are forcing you to go with, i comprehend there is a lot you're no longer telling us. with out understanding the area any advice is largely a shot at evening. Spend a while with him and see if your emotions are the comparable now. He has injury you so as that they won't be.
2016-10-16 11:57:01 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just forget about her and move on in live. She is too egoistic to think about anybody else but herself, she is not right with you or this other person, only one she will think about is herself nobody else.
She doesn't deserve you! Only thing that she deserves - is being lonely by the end of her life, because trust me - everybody she will deal with will be hurt at the end.
2006-10-27 20:41:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i feel your pain. same thing happened to me 15 mos ago. it still hurts but i dont let her know that. ive even partied with her boyfriend. we all get along ok. one of the other comments was right on. my ex likes that i dont care what she does but if she hears about me being interested in another woman she gets all worked up about it. the old double standard. i say lets go have a few and check out the hotties. hey we might get lucky.
2006-10-27 20:07:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you know.You just don't want to face it.Why should she change when she can do as she wants and get away with it.It hurts to loss somebody you love.I loved a woman dearly,but left her.It took all my strength,but I stayed busy and started dateing right away.When somebody makes you unhappy everyday what's the point.Do you like abuse?Give yourself a break and keep telling yourself you deserve to be happy.There are some woman out there who will treat you well.Find yourself one.
2006-10-27 19:36:17 · answer #8 · answered by tennpeckerhead 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to move on... it's hard man... i know... ***** left me for someone once... collect your thoughts... be strong about this.. prove that you are a better man... hide your heart if you must... tell her you love her but only when she wants to know... then tell her... don't fall apart... if you feel like the walls are closing in.. take a walk... if you feel alone... visit long lost buddys or family.... tell everything...don't play like you don't care... but keep that chin up.. .she wants to see other men... start finding some women... she might come running back sooner than you think.... she sounds like she's closed her heart... you need to think about tomorrow and the day after and so on n so forth.... continue life.... but keep in contact with her... if she want's to run you run... wait till you are ready and move on... do what you have to do for yourself... good luck buddy
2006-10-27 19:19:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If i was you i would move on! it seems like she was just using you! I wouldnt be so sprung over her because look at what she is doing to you!!!! Ask yourself this:
Does she cry over you!?
Did she think about your feelings!?
Do you really want to make it work with a cheater!? you dont want to go back out with her and thinking all the time if she is cheating on you again!!!!
oh and what goes around comes around!!!......Karma is a *****!
2006-10-27 19:15:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋