2006-10-27 18:57:46 · 29 answers · asked by joshuademex 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
there are a lot of questions to ask someone to see if they would be compatible roommates. job, sleep schedule (do they work or party all night and sleep all day), criminal record, marital status, children, sexual orientation.
2006-10-27 20:01:36 · answer #1 · answered by Spyder 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In a perfect world, no you shouldn't have to reveal that you're gay before hand. But unfortunately we live in a world where many people don't accept your choice. Straight people don't need to announce to new roomies that they are straight. You don't want to end up living with someone who will not be comfortable or worse. My best friend is gay and when he was looking for a roommate, he choose a girl. Living with a girl may be easier in the sense that a guy will think you want to turn him gay. A girl will be a little more comfortable. I don't know if that makes any sense. Ask around and see if any friends or friends of friends are looking for a roommate. They will already know you're gay so it will solve that problem. I hope I helped.
2006-10-28 02:05:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You shouldn't have to; it shouldn't make a difference.
However, with so many people who are against homosexuality, and those who are a little more vitrolic in their stances and are outright hateful bigots, I think it is safer to say so. Not in a way that makes it out like you're looking for action with a roommate, but just a 'by the way, I might bring a boyfriend home once in a while' sort of thing.
This also depends on where you live. Do you have an active population, or is this somewhat of a statistical minority, in which case the person coming to live with you will be seriously thrown off?
Those are some quick thoughts on the subject. Hope you find a good roomie!
2006-10-28 02:00:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Personally I would like to know if my roomate was gay, not that would be a problem but unfortunately a lot of gay's are very promiscuous and not everyone cares to be around all of that stuff including myself, I don't care for that in straight people either. So if it is your place the call is up to you.
2006-10-28 02:46:14 · answer #4 · answered by whattheheck 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you going to room with someone that is the same sex and you are gay, I think it is in both your best interests to be candid. Not that it is anyone's business whether you love same or oppositie sex, but it can be problematic for several obvious reasons. Hopefully you would not even consider being roommates with someone that might have a problem with it.
2006-10-28 02:02:02 · answer #5 · answered by Lisa M 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is wiser to mention it before hand (something like, you don't have a problem with the fact I am gay do you?) to insure you are not moving it with some fascist homophobe who does not even consider you human.
More than likely it is not going to be an issue if you know the person at all, and if you don't know them, it is a good way to make sure you are not getting into something that is not comfortable.
2006-10-28 02:01:01 · answer #6 · answered by Silvatungfox 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Hmmm...it's usually good to be honest, but if you are like some people and want your privacy I don't see why you should feel obligated. I would say if you knew your roommates would have a major like religious problem with it then you should be upfront, it's just the right thing to do and people respect that, some even if they disagree with the lifestyle.
2006-10-28 02:03:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would, simply because I wouldn't want to not say anything, then later they find out and risk a negative reaction. Up-front honesty is better than going back into the closet and waiting for the other shoe to drop.
2006-10-28 03:36:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would be a good idea, unless you intend to pretend you're not for the time you are roommates. Your roommie may be really unhappy if he just happens to find out later on. Depends on how he feels about the issue as to how difficult things could get.
2006-10-28 02:00:33 · answer #9 · answered by doktordbel 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You should; because despite claim to the contrary most people aren’t comfortable with homosexual (I tolerate them but I am leery them). This is only courteous and will make everyone happier as there are no unpleasant and nasty surprises for everyone involved down the road. Also this will help u find out if ur roomate is prejudice or intolerant of homosexuals or not and also avert potentially ugly scenes in the future.
2006-10-28 02:03:54 · answer #10 · answered by smart son of a bich 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
In a perfect world no, but since none of us live in a perfect world, yes. If a person is uncomfortable or even bigoted about the gay world do you want to be trapped living with that person? If they are freaked out by it, how comfortable will you be inviting your boyfriend over for dinner when they are living there?
You would certianly want to know if someone like some of the religous fanatic types we have here, were answering your room mate ad.......... picture it daily lectures, leaving pamplets around about how your going to hell........ it would suck
2006-10-28 02:03:43 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋