I love my best friend. We call all the time and tell each other everything. The problem? She is dating my other best friend and they are crazy about each other. She tells me all the time I love you but I know she means like a brother, she even said I was like her brother. Now though, she doesnt call as much as she used to and she doesnt reply to myspace messages anymore. We seem to only talk when she AIMs me and the ocasional phone call. I love her and I love hanging out with her. I am so afraid of losing the friendship at this point. I would never make a move knowing she doesnt feel the same way and what it could do to my friendship with her and my other friend, but what am i suppose to do? I feel so much pain not having her love me, and at this point she is acting like im not even her best friend anymore, just another one of the group. I need at least that best friend love from her. My soul needs her love just as my body needs air. I love her. What should I do?
2006-10-27 18:27:39 · 6 answers · asked by HALO-BRAWL 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
To add to this, I want to say that, strangley, I am not unhappy about my friends dating. When they told me, I was truly happy and I love when they call me and tell me about how much fun they have together. Believe it or not, I love them both as my best friends and it makes me happy that they are happy. Also to answer the question, no I fell in love with her about two months into our friendship if I had to guess and it was before they started going out. Before it happened even though I love her the way I do, I prayed for them to start dating because I knew in my heart that was what it would take for her to be truly happy. I just wish that I didnt feel the pain of knowing it wasnt me that was making her happy. At the same time, I feel like I would rather feel this way forever than fall out of love with her and just be friends, because I love loving her and I dont ever want to lose the feeling I have for her or have it transfered to somebody else.
2006-10-27 18:45:31 · update #1
Please let her know, but approach this situation with caution because you may end up losing 2 people.
P.S. Do you just happen to like her even more because she is with your other bestfriend?
2006-10-27 18:33:32 · answer #1 · answered by Breann 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in the EXACT same situation as you(and still kind of am), and I mean that 100%. I also have the same friendship fading problem as well, then one day(before she even ended up in a relationship with my other friend) she just kind of stopped talking to me and became very distant. I have no idea what happened, even asked her once if she still considered me a "best friend" and she claims we still are. But shes been distant ever since. Stopped getting any type of contact from her, only way I could talk to her was by calling or messaging her on AIM first.
I even told her how I felt one day, she said she understood how I felt and said she still considered me a friend and all that. However it didn't change the current situation which had already formed before as I stated above, where she kind of just stopped talking to me.
The only way I was able to really deal with it was just avoid anything that reminded me of either of them, so I kinda just went and deleted all the contact info I had with both of them. I never get any calls or messages from them anymore anyway so I just kind of figured it wasn't worth it to stress myself over. I know this is a weird suggestion but it might just be a friendship that isn't worth trying to keep since you'll only depress yourself more and more as time goes on(which happened to me).
Recently I tried talking to her again, and it just made the feelings come back all over and I wish I would of just stayed doing what I was doing which was not bothering talking to either of them, I felt happier when I didn't have her on my mind all the time.
Good luck and I hope you don't become depressed for weeks like I did.
2006-10-30 00:45:18 · answer #2 · answered by nyr132 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i think of it extremely is actual typical and definitely on your case sounds good. You stated that your dating is now based greater on friendship and companionship (with intercourse) greater so than the romantic love you initially felt. That romantic love fades...and that's ok. It would not propose you're falling our of love. ought to you be in a dating without friendship and companionship? No way!! those are an astonishing beginning up to have and build on. If all you felt became that preliminary jolt of romantic love i do no longer think of your dating might have lasted..there ought to be greater to it that that. As for lacking the hearth...that takes artwork. On the two factors. merely using fact the hearth is burning out would not propose you could't re-stoke the hearth!!! attempt being greater romantic in the direction of him and that i think of you will quickly see the sparks beginning up to fly. ultimate of luck to you and that i'm hoping I certainly have responded your question.
2016-11-26 00:23:06 · answer #3 · answered by cegla 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her. So many people on here ask about relationships and advice, and don't realize that the only way you'll get anywhere is if you be open with her. Tell her what you wrote on here, and see what she's gonna say. it won't hurt you to talk to her, but if you don't, it might end your friendship.
2006-10-27 18:31:32 · answer #4 · answered by sportzgurl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that she loves you any less as before. I think that the relationship between you two is just changing not fading. I thin kmaybe you should sit down with her and tell her how you feel. Maybe she doesn't know.
2006-10-27 18:36:43 · answer #5 · answered by tweety16788 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dear friend your love is one sided. and one sided love is of no use for u
2006-10-27 18:42:57 · answer #6 · answered by rajan naidu 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋