2006-10-27 18:24:39 · 45 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Everyone is going to have a different take on this. But I'd say, no - because young people today have all kinds of different morals and values. Most of them are not pure in heart. If you have a girl - would you want her to get pregnant? If you have a boy - do you want to share responsibility in him getting a girl pregnant? Dating today is a much more serious term than it was 20 years ago. Back then, a date was a movie and pizza. Nowadays - it's like it was a dud if they didn't at least kiss on the first one. The boys learn what to do - they take it a little farther on every date and before you know it - girl is pregant. Now, some boys are trustworthy - but they do not mature very quickly and I wouldn't trust 99% of them. I would let them spend time together as friends - chaperoned or as a friend of the family. I mean I had friends who were boys and it was nothing like dating is today. I wouldn't even trust my own son to take a girl on a date at age 13. I mean, what are they thinking? Let them spend time together in a youth group or soccer league or band - whatever - but not alone on a "date." In fact, in my house - boy will have to ask father's permission and that should be enough to scare him off from thinking he's going to experiment with my daughter!
2006-10-27 18:32:15 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 3⤊ 2⤋
A 13 year old should be allowed to date in a group setting, or if it is to be one-on-one, it must be chaperoned. True, it may be a bit embarrassing at first (for the 13-y/o), but, now is the time to learn how to handle such social situations with some sort of backing. Otherwise, it can lead to situations that they are way too young to handle.
Ultimately, it is your judgement call. It is your child.
2006-10-27 19:22:28 · answer #2 · answered by Mudcat007 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No they should not be dating. 13 is a tough enough time with having to deal with all the body changes and the hormone changes that you shouldn't throw in dating too. At his point- they don't have the maturity to know how to date the opposite sex and they don't understand consequences of dating and any other activity that goes on. Let your 13 year old be just that- 13! Wait until they are older to allow them to explore with the opposite sex (or same- whatever floats their boat). Right now- allow them to get to know who they are and who they are becoming with the changes in their life.
2006-10-27 18:39:07 · answer #3 · answered by Tammy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not a boy-girl date... but with a group of friends, sure...
13 year olds don't have any reason to date. Life is easier if they aren't focused on boyfriends/girlfriends. I wish I had spent my time when I was 14 - 15 more focused on school rather than boys. They weren't worth it.
2006-10-27 18:27:02 · answer #4 · answered by Ashley P 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
They do it because its the COOL thing to have a girl or boyfriend... and no its not ok, they honestly should know that anyone they date now is pretty much NOT going to be around for long and its a total waste of time.. have you heard of a couple thats been together since they were 13??? They shoudnt be doing the things that "daters" do anyway...know what I mean?
2006-10-27 18:41:58 · answer #5 · answered by HH72 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thirteen year old kids should be able to date because they are like in the 8th grade and when they go to high school, they will have probably new boyfriends or girlfriends. Thirteen year old dating is like a practice for them so that they can be good at it for high school romance and drama. If they have never dated in thirteen, they wouldn't be able to have romantic communication to other people.
2006-10-27 20:48:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
NO. Not without you parents. The only way I would allow my 13 year old daughter to date is if her boyfriend came over to our house to eat or if we all went out to eat. You are to young no matter how mature you think you are.
2006-10-27 21:46:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. 13 is old enough to be trusted to go 3-4 hours without supervision.
2006-10-28 03:51:41 · answer #8 · answered by Emily 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say yes i dated my first boyfriend when i was 13.
as long as your sensible and only stay at the first base stage i don't see any problem with it.
my eldest daughter is 13 and though she doesn't have an interest in boys at the moment i wouldn't have a problem if it was her because she is a mature and sensible kid and i trust her.
2006-10-27 21:54:54 · answer #9 · answered by rosierotweiller 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure as long as mom or dad drive you to the movies, buy your tickets, sit between you (or beside you if they really trust you) and then take you out for pizza afterwards and drive you home.
Supervised dates at 13 is a good way for the child to get some experience going out, and for trust to build between the child and parent.
2006-10-28 01:41:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋