And if he met a new girl and says he is not into it for love, just for fun, then its just gonna be for fun for a lifetime, right? Even if the guy is quite in his 50's...? Nothing's ever gonna change that, right?
2006-10-27 18:12:12 · 21 answers · asked by The Punisher 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The only constant in the universe is change. You knew that, right? Never say never.
2006-10-27 18:15:30 · answer #1 · answered by SteveMc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has been down that road before and it turned out to be full of assumed obligations, commitments and expectations with little appreciation or fun. So, now instead of getting locked into something, he wants to make that choice to be together every day. This way the relationship remains fresh and unconfining. If he is 50+, then a lifetime is only 20-30 more years, which to him isn't that long, so he might as well just enjoy the gifts life has to offer and the time he has left. If you are looking for something different than good times and somehow think that marriage is going to make your life better, you might be with the wrong guy, or you may need to realize that a relationship built on the benefits of independence, freedom and friendship may be even more wonderful than a marriage, which often includes a lot of misunderstood expectations. If you stay together for a long time, in some states you will become 'common law' married, or before he dies, I might suggest that he has a will in place. That way you don't lose the estate to his x-wife or kids from a prior marriage. Otherwise, marriage is just a word. You don't need to live by society's rules. Just be happy. That's probably how he feels.
2006-10-28 01:36:23 · answer #2 · answered by seattlego 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is not true. Anyone can change. It is true a divorce hits a man very hard and it is not easy to love again but it is possible and happens all the time. And age has nothing to do with anything at all. A person can fall in love again and be happy it is really up to the other person to keep the fire going in the one that has been hurt. Time heals a lot of things, even broken hearts.
2006-10-28 01:52:49 · answer #3 · answered by orlin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It won't be as hard for him to love again as it will be for him to trust again. I think his approach to things so soon after a divorce is rather healthy. He's just trying to keep things light until some of his emotional wounds have had time to heal, & he's being honest about it both with himself, & the people around him.
I doubt that a divorce will taint a man's emotions for a lifetime.
Give him time, he'll get over it.
2006-10-28 01:19:22 · answer #4 · answered by No More 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be careful some men want to use their pain as an excuse to just use you! It goes like this "Oh I am sorry I don't want to get serious because I have been hurt-but I need you" Women get hurt to but don't use it as an excuss to hurt a man and break his heart! If a man is still talking about a past relationship then use this as a red flag to run from him! Don't let him use you! Good Luck!
2006-10-28 01:20:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am over 50 and deeply hurt by the divorce and I have loved again.
Some people are so hurt that they shut down and don't let job back in to their life.
We just have one life to live and crapp happens. Encourage yourself or who ever you are talking about to be wiling to love again.
Join yahoo personals or some sort of singles group and be open to the next chapter of life.
2006-10-28 01:17:39 · answer #6 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust when I say this he is damaged and you will get hurt if you let him into your heart. Believe what he is telling you, even if its looks like he could be in love don't get that involve. You will be hurt. Just have fun with this person then move on.
2006-10-28 01:33:58 · answer #7 · answered by Apple 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who wants to be seconds....Let him get over this and when he is ready he will love again. Right now what ever he has with a girl is just to get over the hurt. It is not serious.
2006-10-28 01:22:23 · answer #8 · answered by justlizz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At least he's honest, I can give him that. It's up to the Girl to accept his intentions or not, and if she accepts it? Then it's a lust for fun.
As far as changing? No one can change him but himself, especially if his mind is set to have fun no matter what the age.
2006-10-28 01:58:04 · answer #9 · answered by Smahteepanties 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is in his 50's and he has been there done that , as for a life time of love well I really don't think so. he just wants to have fun
that's all...
2006-10-28 01:15:41 · answer #10 · answered by E.M. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋