I know that I as a female enjoy being dominated........to an extent, not to the extent of abuse. But in America, I believe that a woman can almost always find a way out of a relationship if she feels she is being abused. I think that women that allow themselves to be repeatedly abused in front of their children, or women that allow their children to be abused are just as guilty as the abuser, what do you think?
2006-10-27 18:10:48 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Politics & Government ➔ Other - Politics & Government
You're partly right. But there are other reasons as well.
2006-10-27 20:21:46 · answer #1 · answered by oskeewow13 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you fail to understand the psychology of those who allow themselves to be abused. Often, there is a history in their family of such abuse. They grow up thinking that is the normal way to live. Also, their self-esteem is practically nil. Many women find themselves having to choose between taking their children to a shelter or enduring the abuse. Many times the abuser has made sure that the wife has no access to money or any way to leave. Another problem is that men who threaten to kill the woman if she leaves often follow up on their threats. When a woman tells a police officer, "he says he'll kill me and I know he means it" she usually is right. If the children are being abused, which is not always the case, that can be what finally makes them leave. Women who endure abuse from their husbands/boyfriends usually draw the line at their children being abused. The sad thing is that they are so mired in guilt and self-loathing that they don't see their children are being harmed simply by witnessing the abuse the man is dishing out. It starts the cycle all over again. I have worked with women like this for many years, and no, they do not enjoy being abused. They simply, in most cases, lack the emotional and practical tools to do something about the situation without help from the outside.
2006-10-28 01:19:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes a woman, or man for that matter, can loose a part of themselves which may have normally allowed them to be strong enough, secure enough, and mentally healthy enough to leave an abusive relationship. Their spirits are shattered as a result of being brought down. It takes support of friends, family and a lot of rebuilding to get out. If children are involved, they can serve as an incentive to get back up and arrange for the escape. It takes lots of time, especially if there are financial concerns. There are some PEOPLE - women or men - that are masochistic to some degree and stay. But I firmly believe NO ONE wants to be emotionally or physically abused. And if that is their desire, then they were messed up somewhere along the line. It's a sad deal. Not really one waranting blame. Just understanding perhaps.
2006-10-28 01:37:04 · answer #3 · answered by earthsagirl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most of the time the abuse isn't just physical. It's also verbal/emotional abuse. The man beats down her self-esteem until she thinks she doesn't deserve any better and/or that no one cares anything about her. He isolates her from her family and friends, makes her cut back on any outside work or quit her job all together, so she gets very little, if any, positive feedback from anyone. I don't think any woman enjoys being abused. Some of them just don't see any way out, especially when they have kids to take care of.
2006-10-28 01:31:35 · answer #4 · answered by mocha5isfree 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that women who allow abuse are so emotionally scarred by something they have lost the ability to see things clearly.
But if you allow children to be abused, you are as guilty as the abuser.
2006-10-28 01:50:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's because they feel trapped and are afraid to be on their own again, they don't have enough faith in themselves to belive they'll be okay by theirselves. Some men can make a women feel worthless, useless, ugly, or stupid, so they end up sometimes hating themselves and they feel like they deserve what they get, and think that it's better to be abused then to be alone.
2006-10-28 01:24:07 · answer #6 · answered by Robin W 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Women get into abusive relationships with abusive men because deep down in their psyche, the wanted to be a submissive cared for feminine partner...They did not intend on becoming the abused partner of a boorish thoughtless male moron...A common mistake many women make when following their deep feminine instincts and desires...Desires to be feminine, submissive , safe and protected by the benevolent and dominent male...
2006-10-28 01:30:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
I do not believe it to be true .I had one friend who definitly did not like it but she could not shake him off. He'd stalk her, beg her, scare her. He would really ware her down and she took him back a couple of time. The guy even threatened me once because he knew that I was trying to help her get rid of him. The guy was a real psycho, there wasn't anything to like there
I will also tell you that I as a woman have no tolerance for male domination, nothing will throw me into my ball busting mode faster than a male trying to dominate me.
2006-10-28 01:21:55 · answer #8 · answered by scarlettt_ohara 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think they feel trapped and there's no way out, especially if there are kids. Part of the abuse is him convincing her there's no where to go and no help for her to find.
2006-10-28 01:14:22 · answer #9 · answered by Joanne B 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Why in the world would you even ask a question like this? To attack abused women? That's pretty low if you ask me, and you did.
2006-10-28 01:22:16 · answer #10 · answered by Cerulean 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋