My girl friend told me that her bf (she's 28, he's 30) is upset with her because she started another job. She tends to have a lot of jobs but she's almost always working. She just doesn't stay for long. A year here, 6 months there. But she always gets another job right away or before she leaves the first one. Her bf is upset about it and now she's upset. Should this matter to a guy?
2006-10-27 18:09:48 · 14 answers · asked by Ade 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Its none of his f*cking business!!!
2006-10-27 18:23:39 · answer #1 · answered by HIMSELF 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if it clearly demonstrates a pattern of instability and the inability to stick to a task, then it really speaks to a person's character and maturity - not just a "job history". And a lack of character and maturity won't stay isolated to a job history - it'll creep into other parts of her life - like her relationship with her bf.
Staying with a job, even when it stops being fun, and it stops being exciting, is a demonstration of maturity. There's no other way to look at it...as a manager who hires others, there's no way a resume filled with very short stints at all sorts of companies says ANYTHING good about an applicant.
Doesn't matter to me if there's no gap in employment - this kind of history means RUN THE OTHER WAY. And I'll bet this girl's bf is starting to put 2 and 2 together, and I'll bet this kind of thing is beginning to be reflected in their relationship as well.
Best to you.
2006-10-28 01:15:05 · answer #2 · answered by Timothy W 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that it does matter to some people. My husband's best friend is going through a divorce right now, and--among other things--his wife's lack of job stability was causing problems in thier relationship. She was always changing jobs, not necissarily leaving one for a better one, and sometimes leaving a good job (or getting fired from it), for one that pays less. In her husband's opinion, she was just very unmotivated, and that turned him off about her (and she cheated on him with one of his good friends, so that was like the icing on the cake). But in aswer to your question, I think someone's work history does matter to many people as a sort of gauge for thier overall motivation and trustworthyness.
2006-10-28 01:15:51 · answer #3 · answered by missapparition 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This type of work history says that she is unstable and cannot stick to one thing for very long. Our characters have a way of showing up in all the aspects of our lives. If we can't stick to a job we likely cannot stick with other things in our lives. The boyfriend is likely worried that her attitude towards work will be reflected in her committment to the relationship.
2006-10-28 01:43:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually, sometimes work history doesn't matter. My best friend got a job that we both were going after...i had the experience and she didn't. in fact she never had a job before in her life!!
It really depends on the employer
2006-10-28 01:13:37 · answer #5 · answered by ♥Brown Eyed Girl ♥ 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe he thinks she will do the same thing with guys...shows a lack of commitment and a desire to not stay in a situation very long. I would be concerned about that as well.
2006-10-28 01:19:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It affects credit. If they are planning to someday marry and want to buy a home, time on the job matters. Also shows stability.
2006-10-28 01:15:08 · answer #7 · answered by Jack 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my bro has the same problem with his girl.....he says that he will not marry her because she is not responsible with her life. It really matters to a guy. He wants someone who can hold her own. Not pay the bills for him but be responsible. I say if that is the case and she is not making you happy then leave her.
2006-10-28 01:16:11 · answer #8 · answered by justlizz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well sooner or later the bad history will catch up with her and finding a new job won't be so easy.
2006-10-28 01:12:47 · answer #9 · answered by catmoosebear 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
His mind is way ahead of thier current plans. If she change jobs it will be hard for them to get a house when (if) they get married.
2006-10-28 01:12:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yal , what does this matter...she stays employeed. but if she wants a good job or go after that one that requiers stable job history , she is in trouble then.
2006-10-28 01:13:30 · answer #11 · answered by ~just_jd~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋