I was young when I had my son. I sometimes think about his father and I know that I love him dearly for the baby he gave me.
I really wish that the way we split up, the custody process, and fighting did not happen the way it did and someday I really hope that my son's father and I get to see and speak to each other again and he gets to see what handsome young man his son turned out to be. I could go on about my son, I am so proud.
He signed over his rights to my husband and we've been married ever since. My husband has been a wonderful dad to all our children!!!
I am sorry for all the fighting.
2006-10-27 17:44:25 · 14 answers · asked by whatsupwithhim 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I don't think you really still love the father of your son. You have just immoralized him in your heart. Meaning you remember the good times and the romantic and hot times. So, when life gets you down your brain takes you back to those feelings. The truth is that if he was in your life you would most likely be misserable.
Your husband is wonderful. He deals with the good things and the crap things with the kids.
He is the true father.
I do hope that your son's birth father eventually stands up and gives his son some of his time.
My daughter has a little girl whos birth dad has no idea of how to be a dad. He loves her when he sees her, which is't very often. Her true daddy is engaged to her mom. Her true daddy have given her a baby brother and a good life and lost of love.
Gradually wean your x bf out of your heart and mind. Avoid trouble. If you do know where he is maybe you can write him and say that you are done being angry with him and you would like him to ocassionally see his son. (if that is what you want)
2006-10-27 17:54:12 · answer #1 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
O.k. you still love your son's father and you probably will always love him..BUT...you are now married to a wonderful guy who treats the children like they should. Your son's father signed over his rights, and this says a lot about this guy. Why would you want to go back to something like that, and possibly jeopardize what you have now?
I believe if the relationship between you and your son's father could be the way you want it, you'll probably be sleeping with him. I say this because you took the time to post this question regarding your ex, there has got to be more. DROP IT!
Is that fair to your current husband and family? Move on and get your head out of the clouds!
2006-10-27 18:04:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's..,
No, there is nothing wrong with loving him. You got beyond wanting him. You have memories of both good and bad times. You have a life apart from him and you sound happy. You can't go back. And you really don't want to.
You regret fighting. There is always some bitterness. Much can not be helped. That was a trying time. Forgive yourself. You are not that person. Congratulations on raising a wonderful child. Best to you.
2006-10-27 17:59:09 · answer #3 · answered by Charlie Kicksass 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perfectly normal in my opinion. I was also very young and actually my daughter's father isn't around and hasn't been for years but I still think of him even though I'm perfectly happy in a relationship and have more kids.
I'm sorry I fought with my ex as well- but everything happens for a reason and I think that all of those events made me who I am today- and I think I'm an okay person and I love my life!
2006-10-27 18:01:53 · answer #4 · answered by momofthreemiracles 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are out of the picture. Someday your son may wish to pursue the issue, especially for health/medical reasons. Stop cheating on your husband by thinking about the other man.
2006-10-27 17:59:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is only natural to have feelings for the man that fathered your child. However take into consideration your husband that adopted your son he is the "daddy" to your little man and should be given his credit...I wish there was more men out there like your husband.
2006-10-27 17:52:52 · answer #6 · answered by Amy M 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I will always love my ex for the children he gave me but I dont dwell on the bad things because all the bad lead to the good place Im at now. You will always have memorys just try to remember the good ones. If its meant to be yall will speak agian if not always remember that everything happens for a purpose
2006-10-27 17:51:53 · answer #7 · answered by pebbleap 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no.its not wrong to think of your childs father.you two will always have that common bond....your son.Time will heal any wounds.....it has and always will.You sound like your blessed with your current husband so be honest with him.As much as it seems like it'll hurt......just be honest with your husband..As for now,just send him pictures,call him,let him hear his sons voice.let him know that he may not be a husband,but,he will always be a daddy....
2006-10-27 17:53:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that this is only natural. I think if you ever truly loved someone you will always love them to a certaint point, if you stopped loving them I don't think you ever really did.
2006-10-27 19:46:38 · answer #9 · answered by Crazy n Confused - PHSYCO 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to leave the matter alone and let your child decide when he is old enough to see who his father really is! and that is the man who is good to him an raising him.
2006-10-27 17:52:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋