Is this a good or bad idea? If you have had experience in this area please share if it was a good experience or one to regret
2006-10-27 17:25:11 · 15 answers · asked by reowrrrr 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
FEMALE!!!! I'm curious....but not experienced.
2006-10-27 17:27:34 · update #1
sounds like fun but I've never heard of one of these ending well.
2006-10-27 17:27:26 · answer #1 · answered by creativeblox 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By "mutual friend", I assume that you mean someone to have a threesome with? Is this right?
If this is what you mean, I would caution you against doing this. I have several friends who have experimented with this in one form or another and not in one case did it turn out to be something that was good for thier relationships. In one case, my friend even ended up seperating from her husband for six months before finally getting back together with him and undergoing six more months of marriage counseling before things were even semi-right again. It sounds like something that would be fun to do...it might even be pleasureable and exciting, but it's the day after that you have to worry about.
2006-10-28 00:29:30 · answer #2 · answered by missapparition 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that having a 'third" person in a Marriage is a very smart idea. It could create A LOT of un wanted problems. If you feel the need to "experiment" you should try video's or even buy a life like doll. Nobosy will get hurt or jelouse feelings then.
2006-10-28 00:29:36 · answer #3 · answered by Easter Bunny 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No its not a good idea at all you should try your best to pursway your husband to forget it because the day would come when he might be having sex with your friend without you present. Try to have fun other wise no matter how curious you are because it could be a way that he could be having an affair or it could be just the beginning. BAD MOVE!!!!!!!
2006-10-28 00:42:32 · answer #4 · answered by *Pretty In Pink* 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All this doom and gloom....
Your husband is taking a chance that you might like her more than him as well.
If you discuss it openly and fully before you decide whether to experience it, there is no reason that this could not be a fun experience.
Just because you vacation in Tahiti does not mean you do not want to go back to your hometown.
Just realise it is a vacation and not a steady lifestyle and be sure that all (3) understand that.
2006-10-28 01:31:52 · answer #5 · answered by Holden 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds sexy even dreamy, but in the real world it does not work one or both of you will lose out and get hurt. Most likely he will end up running off with her and you will be left out in the cold.
Most likely he already has someone he is lusting over in mind and want to "do" her and is inviting you into the mix.
In a rare change you might be the one lusting over a co-worker or friend and you are inviting him into the mix and might end up running off with her and leaving him in the cold.
either way one of you will get hurt - if you have kids they will suffer with you.
Keep in mind your "Mutual Friend" has nothing to loose and every thing to gain. and you have everything to loose and are sharing what you have.
2006-10-28 00:37:45 · answer #6 · answered by zqx357 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are walking the path to disaster. Remember there's an enormous difference between fantasy and reality and there's also the big possibility that your husband may fall in love with this other woman. Don't do it.
2006-10-28 01:37:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know... I'm a guy and this all sounds really cool in our fantasy world when cuttin up with the other guys.... but in trying to imagine this in reality.... I could NOT even imagine the feeling of that moment, when our eyes met... while doing this. Can't imagine!
2006-10-28 00:59:11 · answer #8 · answered by Jack 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is not a good idea. If you really love each other, don't you think that you should be enough for each other? That is not love, that is lust and it is not healthy.
2006-10-28 00:30:42 · answer #9 · answered by day dreamin baby 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sex in marriage is supposed to be sacred. It is lust that makes people want to do "threesomes"
Not a good idea!!!!!!!!
2006-10-28 00:35:51 · answer #10 · answered by amoreflowers 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋