My roomate thinks i am hypocrite.
Whever she does somethign that I dont like and I tell her, she brings up stuff that I have done in the past.
The thing however, is that these things that she brings up, I was not even aware of. To me if you have a problem with me, why dont you just tell me right there and then? WHy wait til weeks later?
I feel like she never really had problems with the things I did or she woulda said something. The fact that she brings it up now, after Ive told her about somethign i did not like, makes me think she is doing it out of spite.
Therefore I dont give her a chance. I feel like she had plenty of chances to say how she felt so why is it now she got something to say?
2006-10-27 17:24:18 · 8 answers · asked by Tian 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
this always happens with her, no matter what the issue. oh but you did this. you did that. im like so why didnt you say anything AT THAT TIME? Why wont she grow up?
2006-10-27 17:33:21 · update #1
she is doing it out of spite.
2006-10-27 17:26:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should confront to there that you'll give her one more chance to stop with all of it then if you don't like it move in with another roommate. She just doesn't want to make herself sound bad so she just picks on someone else to make her feel like she's not the only one in the world with problems.
2006-10-27 17:27:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey...take it easy,yes prolly shes doin' it out of spite just to make u seem lyk her and all dat but again it rili dsn't hurt to check urself and she maybe shes right....cos ppl see us betta than we see our selves and after doin a check and u feel okay wiv ur actions...just relax and let it go lyk a mature person...and wen she calms dwn let her knw dat in future if u do sumthn she feels strongly bout,she shd jst let u knw and y'all can sort things out lyk grown ups ....Gudluccckkk.
2006-10-27 17:28:24 · answer #3 · answered by Tinnie Cutie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is easier to find fault in someone else then to admit that you have done something wrong, that is why she switches it up on you when this happens she doesn't want to take any responsibility for her actions.
2006-10-27 17:28:12 · answer #4 · answered by melissa052572 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some people have a slow boiling point. it could be that it just really doesnt bother her as much as it does you but when you say something, maybe she feels like you are attacking her. calm yourself down and just say, "oh, i didnt know that bothered you. can you tell me sooner?"
2006-10-27 17:34:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you think that she did something wrong that you also did in the past..., it's better not to go all out and argue with him..., because it will only bring a misunderstanding...
2006-10-27 17:36:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
when someone brings up junk from the past, they are trying to avoid something...or trying to get away with something. let her know that shes being irrational and ask her whats REALLY wrong
2006-10-27 17:26:38 · answer #7 · answered by Dead Birds Don't Poop 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she's just standing up to your argument. when someone doesn't have a good comeback, they bring up stuff nobody even remembers :)
2006-10-27 17:27:21 · answer #8 · answered by Carlos 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋