...to get her man in the mood if the relationship has been going through a really rough patch? He has been very distant and has not touched me for about two months now. is there any way to bring back intimacy?
2006-10-27 17:23:06 · 16 answers · asked by harleyq8 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well, I think that the first thing you need to do is figure out why the intimacy went away in the first place. If you were just both being complacent and things ended up streching farther than you expected, then I would tell you to just get back into the swing of things by having a romantic night out together (or something of the like), but my gut tells me that something has happened to cause this rift between you and your husband. So...I think that what you need to do is open the lines of communication and voice your worries to your husband. Talk to him about your concerns and about how much you want to bring back the closeness that you once had. If that doesn't work, you might want to try to seek some professional help that will allow you to both figure out what happened to cause the problem.
2006-10-27 18:12:08 · answer #1 · answered by missapparition 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course there are loads of things you can do to get him in the mood, however you say you've been going through a very rough patch which means your husband may be suffering from depression which can greatly affect a man's libido. Try to be patient and understand that it almost certainly has nothing to do with you, I'm sure he adores you. Sometimes the more pressure that's put on a guy the less able he is to perform.
If you still feel you need ideas on how to get him in the mood just send me an e-mail and I'll help all I can.
2006-10-27 18:42:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure you know what he likes, sexually, right? That is what you are talking about, right? I don't know the why's, but why not get ready for him when he comes home from work. Prepare a nice meal(somethng that he likes), take a nice bath and pamper him. Do something to him that he doesn't expect. Variety is the spice of life. Have you ever asked him what he likes? Maybe it is something that you have never thought of or maybe it is something that you don't want to do. Get him excited enough and I guarantee he will touch you! Then you need to do some serious talking, to get to the bottom of the problem.
2006-10-30 04:02:58 · answer #3 · answered by whitefalcon901 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Looking and acting sexy may not be the answer for your man. Maintain your health, look clean and pretty. Let him come to you!
There is a possibility he is getting his sexual needs met by another women.
Don't confront him with this notion, for if it the truth he will only lie. The clues are there, you just need to feel the changes in his behavior. Or you are afraid of the truth.
You can just ask him what is the problem.
2006-10-27 17:29:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be wondering if he has someone else giving him sexual favors.But this is hard to find out .So try his favorite meal wear something really sexy and give him more affection and see what he does then .He may just be working to hard .But to me he is not normal so you can as a last resort ask him whats wrong with him have I done something wrong. Good luck.
2006-10-27 17:35:37 · answer #5 · answered by john h 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Next chance you get, start masturbating in front of him. Ask him if he wants to help. If he says no, continue as if its his loss,(and it will be) and make damn sure you he sees that you can get by just fine. Too kinky for you? Its only kinky the first time you do it, and only a fool of a man will pass up an opportunity like that!!
2006-10-27 17:33:45 · answer #6 · answered by klp 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he has having affair or something bad happen at his work place, if not then sit down and have a words with him. Things will workout good this way.
2006-10-27 17:28:44 · answer #7 · answered by Cindy L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow. thats tough. if you two arent talking about anything thats going on, or why he is so distant, i dont know what to say. just keep being there for him, silently. dont nag, because nothing is worse than a wife that nags. just be there for him
2006-10-27 17:28:09 · answer #8 · answered by sassafrass 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first find out what the problem is. lack of intimacy is the symptom you need to get to the root.
2006-10-27 17:25:48 · answer #9 · answered by Tian 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes! Take control and let him know that you want him.Put something sexy on and be somewhat aggresive.If he does'nt like it than get started without him
2006-10-27 17:28:23 · answer #10 · answered by charles 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋