without him wanting to mess around? i just got home from a long day at work and just wanted to lay in bed and watch tv with him and he wouldnt stop trying to get busy!! this happens every time when i just wanna relax and lay next to him. geez
2006-10-27 17:15:30 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
yes i know thats men but come one...i can NEVER just lay next to my spouse and just relax?????
2006-10-27 17:21:30 · update #1
The same reason why he gives you a massage and then expects some right afterwards then gets pissed off because the massage made you feel relaxed and tired( what did he think a massage was going to do?)
They are men and thats one thing they always have on their mind. Whether the pretend to do something nice or just try to go for it, they need to realize life is not some damn porn. Real women do get tired and just want to relax sometimes.
2006-10-27 17:24:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, maybe you guys just haven't been intimate lately? I think this is one of the problems that married couples have, and usually women end up not wanting to have sex and that's why men tend to cheat. I think you should really talk about this and tell him that there are just some days where you just want to come home and relax, and also negotiate and try to match your busy schedules.
2006-10-27 17:20:02 · answer #2 · answered by hopeless 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He probably does not have as much stress in his life as you do. Be nice give him a day to look forward to, or make a deal when it is your least stressed part of the day. I am guessing you have not been married for that long. Give it some time and he probably will stop pawing at you, but then you might start wondering why is he not slobbering over you anymore?
2006-10-27 17:21:35 · answer #3 · answered by Ben V 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He obviously has a higher sex drive that you, but do remember that sometimes quality is better than quantity.
First rule of marriage NEVER have a television in the bedroom. If you want to watch steamy movies do that in the lounge but keep the bedroom really special.
2006-10-27 18:46:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because most men are almost constantly thinking about sex, even if they don't realize it. It's the sad sad truth, honey. And think of it this way: if he's always wanting to have sex with you, then you must be pretty good. lol It makes it feel like more of a compliment than just an annoying characteristic.
2006-10-27 17:20:12 · answer #5 · answered by stratocaster lover 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's all about communication and compromise sweetie! Talk with him about it. Tell him how it makes you feel unappreciated and unloved when he paws on you all the time when you are exhausted and wanting to unwind. By the same token we have to be sensitive to how sexual the male creatures are and give it up sometimes unless you want him to go looking elsewhere. Try to compromise. Compromise can't come without communication.
God bless you!
2006-10-27 17:19:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
consider yourself lucky. it could be worse. look at the alternative; how would you feel if he always left you alone?
My suggestion is to both compromise. Both should agree on how many times you should get busy every week. For each couple its different. One may feel 5 times a week is too much. others feel its not enough.
2006-10-27 17:26:16 · answer #7 · answered by creativeblox 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well...you could just TELL him you are not in the mood and give him a rain check. YOu could also give him a little head to tide him over. I don't really have this problem though. Even when I am tired I STILL can't keep my hands off my man, and he's the same with me!!!
2006-10-27 17:20:23 · answer #8 · answered by Easter Bunny 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
yeah, when i want to spend some time with him or lay next to him, he will move on find something to do it, most of time when i am busy, he has free time. when i am free, he need to do something else, it seem we can't stay together to do one thing,
why? i always want to spend some time with him, but he never know how a girl's thought.
2006-10-27 17:28:20 · answer #9 · answered by cecilia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh. You expect something different. A different response. You gotta be kidding. He's a MAN! HELLO! And he's your husband. I know it seems sooooo selfish of him. But sacrifice (which you probably already do) and with as much enthusiasm as you can muster, give... him...what...he...wants. Then rest. You may just be surprised at what results.
2006-10-27 17:19:06 · answer #10 · answered by fruitypebbles 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋