I want to get a divorce, we've been marry for a little over 3 years. My husband hasn't been working for almost 2 years. I'm tired of carrying all the weight, being responsible for the family. I quited school, started working and I can't go back to school since he's not working. It's stressing me out, and I'm fed up because he's not trying to find a job either... not for about 6 months. Will I still have to take care of him? Since I've been doing it for this long... I'm only 22 years old. He's 36.
2006-10-27 16:54:07 · 17 answers · asked by xp office 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
they could make you pay him maintance
2006-10-27 16:56:53 · answer #1 · answered by careermom18 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hoh, boy. You are only 22? You certainly have been through a lot already! I would definitely get a divorce, get back into school and try to make a better life for myself. I have always believed marriage should be a "forever" decision; HOWEVER, it sounds as if he has been taking advantage of you and you have been enabling him to do so. It also sounds as if he hasn't ever taken responsibility for himself or his life - & he has found someone to take responsibility for him - YOU!! There are a lot of financial aid programs out there for single moms (do you have children?) - maybe you should go to the college of your choice and find out what your financial aid options are. Many schools even have legal aid offices where you can get help with legal problems - they may not take "cases" but they will direct you to organizations who do. If you decide to divorce I don't believe a judge would expect you to "take care" of your ex.
Good Luck!!!
2006-10-28 00:05:45 · answer #2 · answered by voycinwilderness 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a low life! At THAT age he should know better! You need to tell him to sh!t or get off the pot, seriously. My ex husband was the same way, did't work and had not ambition to work, and because of it I'm still paying off the debt and will be for a LONG time. You should give him a deadline to have a job, if he doesn't tell him he better back his sh!t and be prepared for divorce. Do you have children together????
2006-10-28 00:08:40 · answer #3 · answered by walkinbyfaith7 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because he hasn't had a job for so long and he depends on your income he would likely be awarded maintenance (alimony) if/when you divorce - the courts expect each to maintain the same lifestyle afterward although nowadays it's usually temorary and since you haven't been married for very long I doubt you'd have to pay for many years
get a consultation with a lawyer in your state, they'd know for sure what to expect and what the laws are where you're at
2006-10-28 00:03:42 · answer #4 · answered by smarty pants 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really love him you'll do it despite everything... And if he really loves you he will move earth and sky to find a new, well paid and dignifying job.
Otherwise, just do whatever you deem pertinent and ignore this answer and all the others. A good psychologist will tell you that you had already made up your mind about this issue, you're just looking for vindication...
2006-10-27 23:59:32 · answer #5 · answered by zap 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
His not a responsible guy. Faster get rid of him . You are still young and don't waste your life and time on tis useless guy . He don't work so how to carry on living with him. Your future will be totally not safe. Get a new good guy .
2006-10-28 00:57:55 · answer #6 · answered by Vv 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow thats a long time you have been supporting him, You should leave him,you might be better off alone.Marriage shouldn't be like that ESPECIALLY after only 3 years, imagin how much long youre going to have to support him.
2006-10-27 23:58:16 · answer #7 · answered by abelssexywifey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just leave him. Let him go for a divorce.
He will not get anything unless he can prove that he is unable to work because of some physical or mental condition.
2006-10-28 00:01:42 · answer #8 · answered by ken88dorset 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As awful as it may sound, but I think you're gonna have to pay him alimony if you two divorce. It would be no different if it was reversed and you weren't working. But you should consult with a lawyer.
Just my thoughts.
2006-10-28 00:18:57 · answer #9 · answered by Tony 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
would probably depend on state law, but it is a possiblity. Talk to a lawyer most of them will do a free consultation.
2006-10-27 23:58:29 · answer #10 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trade him in for me!I need a vacation
2006-10-27 23:59:55 · answer #11 · answered by charles 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋