I met one at a bar and I was enraptured with her...she told me that the male body was a partially decorated Christmas tree? Is that how lesbians feel and is it possible to have one come over to my team?
2006-10-27 16:50:58 · 15 answers · asked by tonylittlejr 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
would you appriciate a gay man trying to get you to "switch to his team?"
if your answer is no, then what makes you think it is ok, to try to change another persons?
2006-10-27 17:12:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is certainly not wrong to be attracted to a lesbian, or to anyone, for that matter. Take if from a girl who gets enough flak for being crazy about gay and bi men!
'The male body is a partially decorated Christmas tree'. Hmm. I've never heard that one before, and quite frankly, the imagery doesn't work for me. I don't know what this means, but it sounds derogatory. From that statement, I'd venture to say she doesn't care for the male form.
Not all lesbians feel that way. Just like many straight women can comment and note the attractiveness of other women, lesbians can acknowledge the beauty of men while still not being sexually attracted to them. Then again, I've known some lesbians who are completely able to sexualize men. Call them bi if you will, but they do not identify that way, and their primary attraction is to women. Of course, there are lesbians who absolutely hate men and give credence to the slur "man-hater", but I like to hope that they are in the minority.
Is is possible to successfully sleep with a lesbian? Well, that's a toughie. There is a movement right now in genderqueer circles for gay men and lesbian to get together and have "queer sex"- queer because they both are queer. The sex itself is heterosexual, but they say it differs quite a bit from true het sex. Not to mention that formerly lesbian author Pat Califia once wrote that all lesbians should have the ability to sexualize and fantasize about men if they should so choose. I know some lesbians who still occasionally sleep with men. I know some who never have, and never will. The majority, though, would probably be offended if you asked, and moreso if you used terminology like "come over to my team". To me, it sounds like this object of your affection is a lost cause, though you know better than me. But you may be able to find open-minded lesbians in genderqueer circles, as I've said.
I wonder, though . . . what is it that draws you to lesbians? Is it the idea of lesbian sex? In which case, a bisexual woman might satisfy your needs, as well as being more accessible to you. Or are the lesbians you describe butch, and that turns you on? In that case, I'd like to give you a heads up that not all butch women are lesbians- you just have to look a little harder. If it isn't those things, then I'm not sure how to help you. But hopefully these have been of some help in shedding light on the subject.
Kudos!
2006-10-28 01:32:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I met a Lady in a bar back in the '90s, she was gorgeous, we worked out a deal that I could flatter, flirt, and hit on her as long as I accepted the fact that it would never get me anywhere, which it never did, although she admitted that she enjoyed the attention. She became one of my best friends. You are never going to convert a truly lesbian woman, she was born that way, and it's not going to change. Nothing wrong with being attracted to them, but it's not a way to find a woman if you're a guy.
2006-10-28 01:24:48 · answer #3 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
partially decorated Christmas tree... haha, I like that.
No, there's nothing wrong with you being attracted to whoever you are attracted. Just (grin) don't expect a lesbian to reciprocate the attraction. It's not going to happen.
2006-10-28 00:11:46 · answer #4 · answered by Alex62 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't get the point you're trying to establish in the additional details if your question. But, no, it's definitely not wrong to be attracted to a lesbian. Face it: we're hot! \m/
2006-10-28 07:37:48 · answer #5 · answered by - iceman - 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you are just attracted to the opposite sex which is whomm you choose to date woman and you happen to be attracted to a woman i doubt she would come to your team unless she's bi, thats cute a partially decorated x-mas tree just means none of that you know what i mean. good luck!
2006-10-28 00:07:32 · answer #6 · answered by pink dolphin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No,it's OK to be attracted to one and she could become a very good friend and she might perform some acts for you,but never fall in love with her .She will just break your heart.
2006-10-28 00:32:00 · answer #7 · answered by sis 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lesbian is a lesbian. There is no switching "teams", regardless of what any religious wacko or closeted conservative says.
It isn't wrong for you to be attracted to her. I don't understand it, but it isn't wrong.
2006-10-27 23:55:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a guy who's been attracted to lesbians, but only if they're very feminine and attractive. I'm basically shallow!
2006-10-27 23:59:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm a guy, and I get attracted to lesbians all the time! - LOL!!!
2006-10-27 23:56:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋