2006-10-27 16:46:59 · 11 answers · asked by squeegieboy2003 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
do things you used to do at the begining that you don't do anymore. Like holding hands at the store.
Get a baby sitter, and suprise him/her with a romantic evening.
2006-10-27 16:49:09 · answer #1 · answered by finebyfive 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It’s the same old story; once a couple has been together a certain amount of time, they become so comfortable with one another the relationship may become stale.
Try doing something out of the ordinary
We fall into the same routine of dinner and a movie every week, and that can get very old, very fast. Add a little anticipation to the workweek by surprising your significant other with a candlelit picnic in the park or go bowling at midnight. You’ll be surprised how such a seemingly insignificant event can put zest back into the relationship!
Give each other compliments
It seems simple, but a compliment is an instant ego booster and will make your loved one know they are still special in your eyes.
Compliment her on her new haircut she didn’t think you noticed or him on his new polo shirt.
Try something spontaneous
A random rendezvous can really jazz up a stale relationship.
Try a drive in the country, or a weekend stay at a bed and breakfast. You’ll rediscover why you two fell in love in the first place!
Make a list
Have you and your partner each create a list of things they’d like to see, do or try. Then, have the other go through your list and circle those they’d be willing or interested in doing. Not only does this open up the lines of communication in a creative way, it clues you in on the things your partner would like to do. In the next few weeks, pick an activity and try it!
Have FUN!
A relationship won’t go anywhere if neither partner is having fun. If you’re not enjoying something in your relationship, speak up! It’s better to halt the potential problem in its tracks than let it continue.
But there's no book of rules to put the spark back in...try anything n everthing...thrs something thts sure to work....as long as u love ur partner n wanna make the relationship work.
Good Luck. :)
2006-10-27 16:56:37 · answer #2 · answered by sugar candy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its after you have kids that you may feel like the spark is gone. Having kids is a big responsibility and we all get caught up in making sure our kids have everything and forget to keep the marriage going. Dont give up you have only been married for 4 years. Get you a babysitter and you and your wife take a nice overnight trip or if you cant afford it just get out for a while and take a breather. When you see your wife tell her how beautiful she is and that you love her show her how much you appreciate her everyday that will help bring the spark back then when your alone you can show her that you are as much in love with her as you were on your wedding day.
2006-10-27 16:59:19 · answer #3 · answered by 2wild4u 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am assuming that the relationship was good, prior to she getting pregnant. With that assumption I have my answer.
The biggest issue could be her time and her general anxiety levels. Being the mother of a 15 month old, takes away most of her attention, almost occupies most of her day time and sometimes night time also. A mother's activity pattern is very different from a normal girl's activity pattern. Remember how you got together with her before your son was born, it is always doing joint activities
So you need to start doing the following, if you aren't doing that already
a) Make time for yourself everyday to help her with managing the baby, (not just your time with your son), but also take her workload of motherly duties of a son or atleast jointly do that with her. (For example try to put son to sleep). This will get back some of her time, and she would start feeling less anxious
b) Then when the slowly find time, to approach her, with sensuous surprises and things she likes including complimenting her on her body.
c) Buy her a present for being the wonderful mother that she is
d) In her friends' circle you sort of become a superhero. I know that this always works. Once this happens, you get a new found respect for being a father. For a mother, a husband respected among other mothers is a BIG TURN ON.
d) If you become Mr dependable for her, chances are that she will always respond to you.
If the entire 4 years, the relationship does not have the spark
then, you need to find ways to emotionally connect with her
a) regularly compliment her deeds and physical apperance
b) genuinely trust & care for her
c) try to resolve her anxiety and her challenges
d) try to avoid anything that irritates her. These could be something very small, like hanging a towel on the bathroom door, or eating with a lot of noise
e) Listen to her and pay attention to her, and have a good fulfilling sexual relationship with her
f) Always catch her by surprise where you compliment her sensuality, like just kissing her when she is cutting vegetables etc..
Good luck
2006-10-27 20:53:43 · answer #4 · answered by rvsasi 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
thats always a good Q. you should get lots of replys to this one. some of my ideas are get a good baby sitter for your son, cook or buy a nice meal, do all the house up nice, esp the bedroom(youl be needing it) get the candles etc a couple of decent bottles of wine, good back-ground music, flowers and all that jazz, have the whole night together if poss. practice dressing up while hez at work or when hez out walking your son or whatever, borrow a nice outfit from a friend if u cant afford to buy one, but under neath, when he takes off the wrapping, make sure youre wearing something hel wanna tear to shreds............enjoy, take your time and the best of luck to u both.
2006-10-27 16:59:43 · answer #5 · answered by genieejj 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gotta go romantic on this one. Rememebr when you first met the person and wanted to show it all. Surprise them by having baysitter and take them on secluded dinne/picnic. Want to score points? Hire or find a singing group and have them "spontaneously" show up and sing. Take the kid to baby sitter, show up in a limo/carriage and have a night onthe town. the key is being alone doing whatever.
2006-10-27 17:00:26 · answer #6 · answered by yanke51fan 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
try something new. get a way together for the weekend with out your son. it dont even have to be any further than the next town. just go in a direction you dont normally go and get.
2006-10-27 16:49:39 · answer #7 · answered by mcdermond3 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart go talk to your loved one .....ask her what it is that the TWO of you can do to get the spark back...dang there are sparks?
2006-10-27 16:50:30 · answer #8 · answered by IT'S JUST ME ! 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tantric sex
2006-10-27 16:49:02 · answer #9 · answered by Okay9 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have sex alot
2006-10-27 16:55:04 · answer #10 · answered by don;t know 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋