I have had to emotionally detach from my husband to stop the pain that he causes me. (If you care...read my other questions). I cannot bring myself to have sex with him anymore. The thought of it makes me sick. It's been a month now...how long will it take him to get it elsewhere?
2006-10-27 16:46:08 · 15 answers · asked by monkeymadness 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am going to be honest with u. It depends on the man. Before i separated from my husband 6 mos ago. I stopped sleeping with him for 7-8 months. We have been having trouble longer than that. He treated me so badly i felt he was rapin me instead of loving me. All he wanted was sex not our marriage. He did not give a rats but about us or the kids. It came to the point i hated his smell, his looks, him hugging me, touching me, etc. I talked to him over and over and he ignored me and joked about it like it was so funny. I found out while we was together ,he slept with a girl and got her pregnant. I just found out 2 weeks ago. I pray that you have hope in your marriage. Make him listen over and over again. I hope your marriage does not go the way mine did. One thing i learned. I am a woman and i deserve to be respected. I am his queen a treasure. He wants 100% from me as his queen and you should want 100% from him as your king nothing else. Let him know to do something about this now whatever u have to do to get this working again before there is nothing left to fix like my husband and i. God has looked out for me and the kids and through all of the things we been through i can honestly say. I rather be someones queen that he appreaciate than someones furniture he sits and rocks on occasionly. Just my thoughts
2006-10-27 17:34:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would say that you are my wife, but it has been 8+ years for us.
It depends on him, because every person is different. I am thinking about it, but so far I have not.
It's getting there, just the right time and right person one day. One month, I would not worry about, but in your situation it may not take long.
If you and him want to stay together, I would recommend counseling before it is too late. How long can you go without it is another question to ask yourself.
Good Luck
2006-10-27 16:53:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I was married to my ex for 17 yrs. Fifteen of those yrs I was miserable, I did not want him touching me whatsoever.
I shared your feelings. I never got over it and after we divorced it was the best thing ever for my self-esteem.
I will never be w/ a man that makes me feel that way.
Seek counseling and if you can't work through it then it may be best if you two go different ways.
Eventually my ex strayed, so the chances are HE WILL STRAY
2006-10-27 17:04:11 · answer #3 · answered by Bubbles 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Of course he will look elsewhere, get professional help before he does.
2006-10-27 18:58:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably already has gone elsewhere..........Have a party when he leaves you.....your life will begin after u lose the loser....trust me been there done that
2006-10-27 16:48:32 · answer #5 · answered by IT'S JUST ME ! 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can tell by the way you keep asking questions that you really love your husband, my advice to you would be to get a book by dr. james 'dobson titled love must be tough, it has helped alot in my marriage. it will help make your relationship stronger and empower you to deal with what ever you have to deal with at the same time.........
2006-10-27 16:53:32 · answer #6 · answered by Chava 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You poor thing. It probably won't take too long if he's as self-absorbed as you say. Please go get a lawyer and make arrangements to leave and start a new life for yourself. You shouldn't live like that.
2006-10-27 16:50:00 · answer #7 · answered by Jess H 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Then you need to leave him if you are waiting on him to get it else where.....If you can't stand having sex with him, why are you still there....
2006-10-27 16:56:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anastacia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think if he care of your feeling, you would forgiving him, will have sex with you, the problem was he hurt your feeling too much, you heart was die right, you want he end up this relationship, right,
you both in painful...............
2006-10-27 17:59:07 · answer #9 · answered by cecilia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have sex with my wife once every two weeks and daily look for a "buddy"
so yes he will
2006-10-27 16:49:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋