My wife won't stop cheating...?

Question

I love her so much and would do anything she asked. but she won't stop cheating on me. she has proiles on many mate sites... what should I do... It kills me to be away from her. but it kills me more to be a sap. and stay

Well Girls hot vett, there is really no excuse for her to turn elsewhere is there. what a lame excuse for cheating.... you could have just let him go, then you would be free to do what you like...

Answer 1

You are in the same situation as i'm. However, in my case, its my husband who is been cheating on me for so long. I feel the same I have hard time letting him go out of my life, i know its better if i dump him, but it takes some courage to do that. I dont know what advice i should give you. cheating is a very repetitive behavior, once it happens, it tends to grow more and more day by day. You can't really help the cheater. I have tried my best to change my husband but every now and then, he starts cheating on me. ANd the worst is that I know he cheats and sometimes right in front of me by watching porn online. Yes i know it kills you to stay away from her and it also kills to be a sap. She has profiles on different sites because she doesnt seem to be happy and comfortable with you because if she was, she would not have been posting her profiles around. My husband does the same. All i can say is see if you can try to work out things by treating her cheating behavior and it depends on you how long you can take it. In my case, i feel like i should leave him or else i will be no where. Time is very precious. We cant waste it on such people who have no self respect. I mean one should be devoted to their spouse after the marriage. there is no excuse. marriage is no joke. Dont feel bad. Try to work on your other goals such as job and studies. Thats what i'm thinking abt . It will make you stronger. She is never gona love you as i can guess from my own situation. Its not that something is wrong with you but something is wrong with her. why someone cheats? bz they feel inferior in their own eyes and tend to cheat just to make them feel better. And also, cheating can be very habitual. so you know it well, its hard to change one's habits. be strong. i know its hard but we gota try. i think if you ignore her for a little while, she might start following you. If she sees you strong, she is not gona hurt you anymore because she will know that you are not going to be hurt by whatever she does. Ignoring is another alternative to work out this problem. feel free to email me if you need more advice.

Answer 2

And I thought it was just the men. What in the world are doing staying around. You love her and would give her the world and she is out messing around? Its time to move on. When you get married messing around is suppose to be over why are you letting her hurt you like this? Leave her cheating a$$. If she loved you there would only be one guy in her life not the hole block. Why stay with someone who doesnt respect you, who is out doing god knows who getting whatever diseases and obviously doesnt love you enough to realize there is one man out ther who loves her and give her the world if he could that man is you. You sound like a great guy divorce her and find a good faithful woman. Dont let her get away with what she is doing when she gets a disease or gets with the wrong man who may be an abusive person she will want you back but I wouldnt give her a slight chance in hell if I were you.

Answer 3

Ohhhhhhh......s'hit. You know, she's wrong for doing that, granted. But you are a pathetic, self loathing wimp to let anyone hurt you like that. I suggest you grow a set and leave...maybe if you had more self respect your wife wouldn't need or want to cheat. You probably hang all over her like a pathetic little fox stole. The feminists in the 90s were wrong; women do NOT like sensitive milktoast guys. They want MEN. Or other women. Period. I almost cringe to read your pathetic wimpy whining, though. You're probably a left wing liberal. And I'll probably get that deleted and lose some points for being "mean spirited and hurtful" (spoken in a whiny, spoiled little bratty girl voice). HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!!!!!!

Answer 4

If you have kids I respect you for staying and trying to make it work, if you don't its time to move on. I believe in the 3 strikes and your out rule she has obviously struck out and you need to move on. Personally I think when some one cheats its unforgivable, but maybe u give them another chance, if they do it again, than its obviously just not meant to be. Theres that phrase "there just not that into you" Cheaters don't change, she will continue this behavior, she doesn't respect you the way you respect her. You deserve much better. You deserve to have some one love you the way you love her and you can't find that some one while you are with her. There is no reason to waste time in a bad relationship. Its time to take your balls back and kick her out on her *** in the ally where she deserves and b/c she is cheating she can't take anything from you in a divorce b/c she brought it on herself.

Answer 5

Get out now. It does not sound like even marriage counseling would help at this point. You can forgive once or twice but beyond that she needs real help. Get out, get her to get into counseling and in a year, if you really care about her, see how she is doing. Sometimes you can make a second marriage to the same person work.

Answer 6

I feel bad for you I really do. I am going through almost the same thing with my husband. Do you know for a fact that she is cheating or just has the accounts. My husband just had the acounts that I know of. I just talked to him and told him that I knew and told him how I felt. If she loves you she will stop. If it is ment to be it will be. Good luck with this and you just need to comunicate with her. Find out if she is happy with the way things are with you. find out why she is doing this. Is it to meet someone new or just for shits and grins. Talking is the key!

Answer 7

Don't know you or your specific situation, but based on what you've offered,... dude, Be a Man.
She left you a long time ago, and does not care about you at all. Give it up, and give yourself the Respect you deserve.
Breakups are hard, but if it simply makes you miserable to stay in it, and all options have been explored , (unless you like the abuse), move on.

Answer 8

How could you ask for help when what ever we tell you you will not do it. The problem is not her but you, you are the one that know that is raining, you are getting wet but you don't want to get out of the rain. Your excuse is very sorry, because you have to take it as a cancer, that you have to cut it off with the limb and the limb is part of you, not your wife. That do hurt but if you don't cut off you are going to suffer for the rest of your life, or even died. So is your decision, now is up to you. You have to get out before is to late. Good luck.

Answer 9

The only thing that i would tell you is that it have many girls in this wold ,so tell her that you dont need her and divorce her and if you have childs jus take your childs with you , because if you forgive her she will still do it again and that is a bad reputation for you as a men , just find someone else but a good one !

Answer 10

do you realy love her? Do you ever stop to say, wow she has cheated on me! Why the heck am I traped in this little game? Do i realy love her am i ready to spend the rest of my life with her? Sometimes its hard to think of it but it all comes out rite in the end! If she loves you she wouldn't be doing! Maybie yall' should go to a good marriage counsling becasue yall' have said your vowls and that is pretty strong!