'plenty more fish in the sea', 'you'll meet someone else', 'time's a great healer'. All of them wrong, wrong wrong
2006-10-27 16:03:27 · 21 answers · asked by Snowth 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I was in the same position as you!!!!! I spent loads of years trying to get over an ex boyfriend.
But guess what years later I met up with him, even though I still felt a chemistry between us it was WRONG.
I realised that I had wasted my time, because this person was really quite superficial and I saw things for the first time. I can only assume I was blind or niave when I first met him.
You have had a lucky escape,TRUST me there is a GOOD reason why fate didn't deal you that hand, it may take you 20 years to realise. By that time it be too late to find someone you derserve.
No one is that special --thank your lucky stars someone else intervened in your destiny---because it could be so much worse, no matter how perfect you think they are or the memory of them.
If you had gone down a path of marriage, you situation now could be hell on earth and you would wish you never had laid eyes on her. If this person felt the same as you and it is right would they have split with you! and hurt you this much.They probably never
even spend a milli -second thinking of you. This person has the problem not you, they cannot commit to you or anyone else watch and see!!!
PLUS remember this when you were put bought into this world was it for this girl? No, she was just a small tiny occurance in your life. Family is more important and close friends and job career and life. They are just extra on the way! so accept it
2006-10-27 22:46:22 · answer #1 · answered by Demi Girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you split up 6 years ago then you've got a serious obsession going on there which you are feeding yourself!
Stop thinking about her, throw everything away that reminds you of her, clothes, pictures, Cd's - everything.
When you think about her say to yourself 'yeah that was fun at the time' then put it out of your mind!
Your mind has made her into something she probably wasn't. When you do think about her, think about the things that annoyed you or the reasons you split up. She was a human, take her off that pedestal and go out and get a new life!!
2006-10-27 16:28:00 · answer #2 · answered by libbyft 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whoa that's a long time! You need to find someone else, I'm sure she has moved on it's about time you did to. Stop thinking about the past there is absolutely nothing you can do to change it. Even though you had great times it's over now you have to live for today not yesterday.
2006-10-27 20:49:57 · answer #3 · answered by Yaz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow six years ago, you really did have it bad, true love, will i wish there was some magical answer i could give you, do you think every other girl you go out with should be like that one that got away, you really do need to move on, i know that it is hard, the same has happened to me, and there is nobody who compares to him, and i am 53, so i stay home. sad but true. I have decided that i have had enough of feeling brassed of and just get out there and try to live my life, as its so short , you don't really realise until you get older...........so just try and good luck, and god bless.
2006-10-27 18:40:23 · answer #4 · answered by donua1022 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chances are, you're still filling up you're diary pages about her, thinking about her, and thinking about things you could've done to keep her. Remember this: you cannot go back in time. What's done is done. I suggest that you try to focus on some of your hobbies (ie. sports, ect.) and that will help you take you're mind off her. Eventually, you're going to have to move on. Take you're future in stride and stop dwelling on a past relationship you'll never be able to change.
2006-10-27 16:07:20 · answer #5 · answered by liv 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get out more start going to brothels get your confidence back, no woman should make you feel bad about yourself. I bet she's out got her life back, go with some mates start clubbing flirt be a man whore what ever just pick up the pace. Life is for living with or without woman, the choice is how you use them.
2006-10-27 16:09:44 · answer #6 · answered by stunner 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
well...now you have bigger issues my friend..you are obsessing over someone..and this is unhealthy. you broke up 6 years ago. That is a very long time..you need to get past her....talk to her..this will give a sense of closure that you desperately need. I'm sure she's gone past you.
2006-10-27 16:45:22 · answer #7 · answered by bald_guy69 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i agree with liv..i guess you are spending time ..trying not to forget about her....no one can help you but yourself...you wont get over this till the time you mean it.
all those things are not wrong..instead of ppl telling you that..you should be thinking on those lines..only if you want to come out of it.
good luck.
2006-10-27 19:20:20 · answer #8 · answered by mini 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
6 years ehhhh...i am sure there was something special there....or wasn't it?....you have to ask your self what happened there?....did you split up with her or the other way around? ....i sense that she did split up with you...the one and true way is to see your self as the trophy...you see her as the trophy and that you have to be the one to chase her....guess what....it is her loss for not having you....people have the natural tendency to be attracted to what they cant have and that is exactly what is happening to you. I hope that i helped...if you want any more advice please do not hesitate to contact me....i have been there and i know how it feels.
2006-10-27 16:52:56 · answer #9 · answered by Dr. C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just realize that you can love more than one person in your life. Remember her for what she was to you. Learn from the experience and move on. For cryin' out loud! Sack up and move on!
2006-10-27 16:31:32 · answer #10 · answered by OU812 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋