My husband become less care and love me since i born a baby . We even been have sexual once a month . Is this normal relationship? He become more care his work and when i met accident he even not free to come to me. What should i do to let him more care and pay attention on me.
2006-10-27 15:50:13 · 18 answers · asked by Vv 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He treat me differently. When i met accident he even said he is not free. He more care of his job. I talk about our problem out but he just said he still love me. We even been only have sexual once a month. Is this a normal relationship? What should i do to make him more pay attention and more love me ? I really very sad for this ...
2006-10-27 15:56:24 · update #1
Sex helps to keep a relationship alive but it's not everything.
You mentioned that you just had an accident and you had given birth? That may be why your husband's more concerned with his work cos obviously the family needs more cash now. Or he might be facing some difficulties at work. Don't think too much and measure your relationship by how many times you had sex, or wonder unnecessarily about if he might be having another woman out there and that he had lost interest in you. These questions are groundless and meaningless.
You need to talk to your husband to find out the answer. As much as there are a whole lot of truly helpful people out here, we will not be able to solve your problem as effectively as your husband.
2006-10-28 04:50:39 · answer #1 · answered by chyrellos 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
5 1/2 mo. You are still getting use to each other. The newness is wearing "Thin", Most couples will deal with this, T Give him a reason to show you "MORE" attention. Have a play time"Video" and have Married time. You both have jobs, you need to relax, his might just be the videos. Draw a bubble bath invite him in. But Don't let the sun go down on your fights, Resolve your problems , don't go to bed mad. You will have little arguments, But that is the good part, The making up is the best part. YOU, need to talk to him, you are not having any problem telling us how you feel. You said, he gets mad if you Can't or Won't tell him what is wrong. You are "Both" at fault.
2016-03-28 09:44:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't really believe he doens't care for you. Its just may be that he is working to make more money to support the both of you and the baby. Life is kind of hard after having a baby, and you are prone to thinking it would bring your relationship closer affectionally, but it's not really like that. Don't expect to much from him, ( i mean i know it feels a little, how do i say, "just sucks") but know he might just be working more to bring more bacon home to relieve his worries of being broke and not being able to feed you. Later, I hope this helps.
2006-10-27 15:54:59 · answer #3 · answered by ladymember 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most men go through a similar transition after thier wife has a baby..they feel they have more responsibility, and you become both a wife and a mother... maybe suprise him one night by getting all dolled up with a romanitc dinner to help juice things up between you two.
2006-10-27 15:58:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I sure hope english isn't your first language in life. You have worded things a bit strange.
This is NOT normal to pay less attention to you after the baby was born.
Why not ask him what is going on?? Are you afraid to communicate with him? don't be afraid.
you guys need counseling
Be more agressive and ask for what you need in life and what you need from him!!!!
2006-10-27 16:01:27 · answer #5 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Give him some time and monitor his behaviour, maybe he is involved in some other immoral activity or affair. Meantime, just focus on bringing up your baby and don't think so much because you just gave birth. Solve your problem one at a time, don't rush into it, be a little patience.
2006-10-27 18:37:27 · answer #6 · answered by James Louis 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not to be a downer but maybe you should keep a closer eye on him because he just might be cheating on you. I had to read this book for phycology and it was about different signs of people cheating and this falls under one of the catorgory. Im not sure just be careful and good luck and i hope this didnt offend you
2006-10-27 16:02:46 · answer #7 · answered by sup 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has to make the money to pay the bells and keep the job.
The home is not like used to be because of the baby. Is no more relax and freedom for sex. Probably your body is no more sexy like before. Is up to you how to attract him and go back to pic up the good pisses from the past.
2006-10-27 15:55:20 · answer #8 · answered by Toto 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your husband is probably seeing you in a different way...your a mother now. You're going to have to show him, that you can be a mother and sexy too!! One night surprise him when he comes home, wear something sexy and meet him at the door!!
2006-10-27 16:52:01 · answer #9 · answered by Gaia Weeps 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to your husband im sure he is cocentrating more on his work because he wants your family not to starve and he is working hard for you and your baby.
2006-10-27 15:52:59 · answer #10 · answered by Ralph 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋