I have outside family member telling me I'm responsible for all the house work even if the family member inside the home messes things up after I clean.Should I clean everything repeatively without complaint or should others do the share of the house work?I feel bad to think that a messy house is all MY fault.
2006-10-27 15:50:12 · 24 answers · asked by jentoxic06 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
50/50.....That's what it took to get across the altar....So why should the rules change when the wedding dress gets put in the closet?
2006-10-27 18:53:27 · answer #1 · answered by Freethrashing 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No way! That was abolished years ago, and whoever believes that now is freaking insane! If ANYONE told me that MY PLACE was to do all of the house work and take care of the kids without help would get a fist in the face. A woman's place is wherever she wants to be. I suggest that you tell that family member that they need to stay caught up on the times, since they are still living in the middle ages! And, I would also have any family member who lives in the house that is old enough to take a chore or two. Good luck!
2006-10-27 22:59:39 · answer #2 · answered by avari 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Slavery ended in the US in 1865 and women actually became persons in Canada in 1929 so no you're not responsible for all the housework, especially if you work outside the home as well.
Think of your home as a community where all who live in the community must take part in making the community workable from the littlest todler onward. Little kids can help by clearing the table and maybe drying the dishes. Older kids can keep their rooms tidy, take out trash, wash and put away the dishes and dust. Teenagers and adults can vaccume , help prepare meals , do bigger outside work like lawn mowing , cook , do laundry.
Tell your relative who's giving you the business that you've been emanicpated but if she's not doing anything she's welcome to do your housework.
2006-10-27 22:59:14 · answer #3 · answered by Lizzy-tish 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Even if your man works all day and you can stay home with house it is not your place to do everything. Children should be taught to help with chores, hubby can help set table and watch kids while you cook so they are not in the way. Children need input from father to grow up well adjusted. If kids make mess they should be shown how to clean up. Best to learn now than when they are 20 and living in apartment that look like pigsty.
2006-10-27 23:03:42 · answer #4 · answered by Ye Olde Caveman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who is this "family member"? Does he/she/whoever work and help pay bills? Do you work outside of the home? If you are a stay at home Mom and have only your husband and children to care for you should do most of the housework, you are a homemaker. On the other hand if you are taking care of deadbeat
relatives, friends, etc. who contribute nothing to the household ,
HELL NO, and stop letting people push you around
2006-10-27 23:03:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it is not your total responsibility. Everyone should pitch in, it is just that by most societal standards housekeeping is what the women do. Most women nowadays don't have the time to constantly clean the house while working full time and taking care of the kids(if they have any). Don't feel bad if you didn't make the mess, just make others accountable for their messes and make them clean it up.
2006-10-27 22:53:50 · answer #6 · answered by moma 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That how my son feels, he leave all the house work, taking care of the baby and anything eles that might pop up on my daughter-in-law. I believe marriage is a two way streets and he should do his share around the house. He feel he works all day and should just be able to come home and relax, well she work to.
2006-10-27 22:54:54 · answer #7 · answered by Ellen J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it depends both need to do thier part to make a relationship work.
now if u both work then its both ur responsibilities to take care of the house and kids.
if only one is working to provide everything then the other needs to do thier part at home.
that doesn't mean the one working should be able to be a pig, they should have respect for the one taking care of the house.
i know it sucks and u hate it, but don't u think he feels the same way about going to work. he still does his part.
i am sure ur glad u have a roof over ur head and i am guessing u wanted kids.
when he is off he should take the kids to give u a break, since they r his also.
u don't live with ur mommy anymore and relationships take alot of hard work on both parts.
2006-10-27 23:13:31 · answer #8 · answered by jesse james 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is NOT your fault unless YOU made the mess. Do you work?
If you have a husband and kids, they should all be equally responsible for cleaning up after themselves. In this day and age of run here run there...everyone should chip in. Long gone are the days of housewife and the "little woman".....it's a two way street honey.
2006-10-27 22:55:12 · answer #9 · answered by mamabear 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If it is don't tell my hubby or kids because in my house everyone helps.
My husband does dishes,laundry,cooks,cleans,shops, or what ever might need to be done ,we both do the work and the kids help and no we don't pay them for helping like we tell them we pay the bills, buy food, make house payments, buy them clothes, give money for school things we sure not giving money to help keep there home clean.
2006-10-27 23:01:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of COURSE it's not all your fault! They who make the mess are they who unmake it. This is 2006 — women have the opportunity to do WAY more than that. Tell this family member that men are capable of cleaning up what they spill, too. (And I don't just mean on the floor.)
2006-10-27 22:52:52 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋