I really really want it sometimes but my boyfriend doesn't. He does more often than I do, but when I REALLY want it, he doesn't, therefore, no sex. But when he wants it and I don't, he gets it anyway. I don't mind that, but I do mind it when he doesn't give me what I need sometimes.... He says it's cause he's not in the mood... He can't get it up cause he's not horny at all... I don't know what I can do... I've tried masturbating...but that's DEFINITELY NOT the same.. I need sex :-( And I don't have any toys..nor do I want any... I want him.... And I'm not sure what I'm supposed to do in these situations... Any suggestions?
2006-10-27 15:40:34 · 19 answers · asked by abbas_n_chantel 2 in Health ➔ Women's Health
Please no perverted answers....
2006-10-27 15:40:47 · update #1
I'm 20, he's 22.
2006-10-27 15:44:31 · update #2
My boyfriend's not a jerk. I'm not going to leave him just cause he doesn't give me sex when I specifically want it. He gives me plenty of sex. This only happens like once ever 3 months or so. It's just annoying when it does happen.
2006-10-27 15:52:09 · update #3
You need to explain to him how you feel about this..but this is normal, you will probably experience this your whole life most adults do..not to many adults wants sex at the same time, just when you guys finally deside on the same time make it one heck of an experience make it one that he will always remember and want..make him say omg where did that come from and that will leave him wanting more...make it wild and hot....
tell him if he at least cares about you then he will help you out he doesnt need to get excited for that..tell him that you need a hand..
2006-10-27 15:56:54 · answer #1 · answered by bllnickie 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your boyfriend. You have to figure out what's causing him to "not be in the mood" and see if there's something you can do to change that. You have to let him know that you have needs too, and that you're respecting him, so he should be respecting you. Communication really is the key to a good relationship.
Good luck :)
2006-10-27 22:43:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my boyfriend like this to. he says he has a male period every 3 months, he wants no sex and he's grumpy. I know it's a little childish, but when I'm not in the mood cause I'm sick, or really tired, I always remind him of when the roles are reversed.he mopes a bit or gets a little mad, but how is this fair to me?
2006-10-27 23:06:03 · answer #3 · answered by sm 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say this, but it sounds like an emotional problem. Try talking to him about it, but there's a good chance he'll deny there's a problem at all. I wish you sincerely the best of luck cause I know what you're going through. It hurts.
2006-10-27 22:44:16 · answer #4 · answered by ms pokeylope 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
try getting him in the mood. Whatever gets him all hot and bothered do it until he can't help but to take you right there. Like whisper dirty talk in his ear or if he's into biting bite him or rub him, whatever works for him.
Or he could just finger you (that way he doesn't have to get it up).
2006-10-27 22:57:55 · answer #5 · answered by Bast 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It takes two to tango... sexual arousal is not a light switch, when your switch is on and his isn't, you should take the time to kindle the fire. But if you blow to hard, the flame will likely go out. Take your time, start slowly, with a nice back rub or something, he is bound to come around.
Good luck
2006-10-27 23:09:29 · answer #6 · answered by Peace 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him...let him know that you love him and are very attracted to him and that when you really want him you wish he would at least try to go with your "mood" once in a while.
2006-10-27 22:52:36 · answer #7 · answered by angella 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
get him in the mood i'd say...wear something sexy or give him a hot massage, casually wear something so that a breast "accidentally" peeks through..just to get him in the mood.
had the same trouble with my bf awhile ago, but he got turned on when i wore sexy clothes or "dressed up" for him and he got in the mood so i'd do that everytime i wanted sex and it worked ;)
2006-10-29 17:16:17 · answer #8 · answered by annie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Everybody men and women have that thing you do that turns them on so to speak so give him a little strip tease kiss his neck or whatever. LOL
2006-10-27 22:45:38 · answer #9 · answered by Hautie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Create a romantic atmosphere, just undress yourself and show him the parts of your body and if he still get himself aroused, there is something wrong with him.
2006-10-27 23:57:18 · answer #10 · answered by Gopal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋