what advice would you give to a shy, sixteen year old in highschool dealing with harassment from the "popular" crowd. loner keeps to self.
2006-10-27 15:35:10 · 10 answers · asked by Emily 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
If the sixteen year old is being harassed, I strongly suggest that person should seek help from an adult they trust or a therapist to deal with it in as healthy as possible way. Emotional support is necessary for all of us when we deal with painful issues! Sometimes people who are naturally introverted see themselves negatively as loners, but, there are many creative, gifted introverts whose gifts do not become apparent to themselves or others until they become adults.
I was shy and sensitive as a young person and felt I did not fit in with the popular crowd, but, as painful as it was then, it provided a greater empathy which I used in a career to help others.
There were other students who "did not march to the same drummer" as the popular crowd who later had illustrious careers. Never, ever give up hope. I wish this sixteen year old comfort during this trying, but temporary, time!
2006-10-27 15:55:05 · answer #1 · answered by jom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ignore them if its only words. Don't believe what they say or if they try to make you feel bad about yourself. People who talk down to others do it because they have a low self esteem and don't know how to handle it. They feel that if they bring other people down in makes them look better. And they think it makes their friends like them more. Trust me, those same "popular people" will be total nobodies in the real world.
If they are hurting you or damaging your property, then you NEED to report it to a counselor. If you're worried about it getting worse if you tell then ask the counselor to just be in the area when it usually happens so he/she can see it or have a friend come with you.
Just don't retaliate or get yourself into trouble. I know it seems like high school lasts forever, but its really a short period of your life and it won't matter in a few years.
Hang in there. I know high school can totally suck. If all else fails, ask your parents to transfer you.
XOXO
2006-10-27 15:47:18 · answer #2 · answered by hd112596 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find your own wee group of people YOU feel comfortable with and ignore the ones you don't.
Alternatively, spend your free time in the library hidden behind a book - that tends to scare unwanted people aware from "swots/nerds".
Result, peace of mind for loner.
HOWEVER, it's not great to shy away from all peer contact - you are leaving yourself open to lots of psychological problems at your age - and I am mindful of these words not being the ones you want to read right now. I used to be like you. Today?
I'm agrophobic.
Take my advice, find your own wee group of friends - even 1 or 2 and hang out with them until your self confidence allows you to go with the flow.
2006-10-27 21:39:34 · answer #3 · answered by Hello 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Learn to fit in with the 'popular' crowd. You know what they say, if you can't beat 'em then join 'em. And don't give me the whole 'I want to be different' crap, if theres anything that I learned in High School, its that everyone wants to belong.
2006-10-27 16:18:45 · answer #4 · answered by The Puppy Kicker 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every night before you go to sleep and when you wake up do this:
Go to a mirror and look into your eyes(not at your eyes) and tell your Self I love you, and I honor who you are and what you are.
Within a few weeks your Life will have changed.
2006-10-27 16:26:50 · answer #5 · answered by aldiaz2wheare 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There could be reasons why you are a loner?... so, one way to
counteract it, is to make yourself busy, active and start talking to people. shyness can be overcomed,... if you do your part in this world... to be active, alive and kicking.
2006-10-27 15:47:00 · answer #6 · answered by dodadz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop being punk. Nock out the biggest one and the rest will stop picking on you.
2006-10-27 15:54:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
be yourself.. focus on things that are more important things in life in the future. Time will come to pass very soon.
2006-10-27 15:45:34 · answer #8 · answered by YourDreamDoc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To step up her game.
F them if they keep "harrassing you.." They don't knoe her. So i'd tell her finds some friends that will like her...
BUT if its something like.. "touching you." and all.. i'd speak to a teacher that she is close with and all.
2006-10-27 15:43:01 · answer #9 · answered by CuKoconut07 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't answer dont make eyecontact......they will get sick of it but to reply to them....this might work
2006-10-27 15:43:30 · answer #10 · answered by sports_gurl_56 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋