Having been through that, and had it almost destroy my marrige, I think it's the worst thing a couple can do for their marriage.
What do you all think?
2006-10-27 15:31:37 · 18 answers · asked by Bryan M 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Good question there, because most of the time all it does bring is problems galore. We did it thinking that it would and boy were we wrong. Granted we got a great friendship from it, but we would NEVER EVER again do that kind of thing.
2006-10-27 15:34:42 · answer #1 · answered by Melanie S 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I think people in todays society are seeking a rush. Once one thing fails to satisfy, move on to something more extreme. Sex somehow isn't good enough or exciting enough on its own, people can't find a better or more sensible way of spicing things up so they throw other ppl into it. I dont think it's right, I know it isnt going to solve whatever their problem was to begin with, just make it bigger and make a new problem. If you have kids, you have NO business putting them through that. People today don't respect themselves anymore, let alone each other. Monogamy is out of style it seems, our culture is going downhill in a hand basket... I for one have no interest in screwing up my marriage in that way. Just my opinion.
2006-10-27 16:01:00 · answer #2 · answered by cartmansmom 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is the worse thing a person can do because jealosy will always pop up in the course of things. Knowing intamicy was extended to someone else might give an erotic feeling but in the end people were hurt. People can always spice up their sex lives without resorting to these actions. Because in the end these actions actually wind up hurting people the most.
2006-10-27 15:48:53 · answer #3 · answered by christain gurl 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I had a neighbor who got involved into the swinger lifestyle. Now he is divorced and his kids don't ever see their mother because she ran off with one of the guys they swang with. Two families destroyed and for what? I think it is a bad idea. Although some couples say it spiced up their marriage I personally think they don't have much of a marriage if they have to do that.
2006-10-27 15:42:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the others...I don't see how you can think that seeing...or just knowing that your spouse or partner is with someone else can "spice up" your relationship. Personally I feel its cheating...even though you know its going to happen....its kinda like holding a knife to your hand and starting to cut it...you know dam well its going to hurt....so why do it? Hell I don't know how a guy could even get it up knowing his wife is being screwed by some other guy....all I would want to do is put a hurt on him lol
As for those who say that you are bored with your partner and want something different well I guess you are still just "Having Sex" not making love and if you do not know the difference I truly feel sorry for you.
2006-10-27 15:43:31 · answer #5 · answered by oldman 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
They are grasping at the only excuse they can come up with for doing it. "spicing up". That's a crock of shite and will cause only problems for them in the future once the horniness has worn itself off. Sex is intended for the married couple. What they share there should only be between them. Why should they give to someone else what is promised to each other. It defiles their marriage bed and cheapens the commitment between them. There are other problems with the relationship entirely if they consider bringing in strangers.
2006-10-27 15:38:13 · answer #6 · answered by GrnApl 6 · 5⤊ 1⤋
I think that you are so right I have never done It be have been asked to. Just the thought of the person I love having sex with another better yet seeing it happen will ruin everything.
2006-10-27 15:40:07 · answer #7 · answered by L@M 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I was married for 18 years and once early in the marriage we had a threesome and it was fatal to our marriage..i couldnt stop thinking that if he watched me with someone else he cant possibly love me and i think that set the rest of our lives together.........yep....we were miserable....it ended 5 years ago.....good luck
2006-10-27 15:35:57 · answer #8 · answered by IT'S JUST ME ! 7 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Obviously they haven't asked your opinion on the matter first, or probably anyone Else's. Did you ask around before you decided to try it?? Couples get bored with each other, the longer you are together the less interested you are in one another. At least that's my case.
2006-10-27 15:41:52 · answer #9 · answered by ? 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Honestly...one cannot take one example and apply it to everyone. What works for some , may not work for others. Personally, i'm not going to say one way or the other, but I've also participated and enjoyed.
if things aren't good in a sexual way then i cannot seriously seeing adding a thhird to help things though...just my honest opinion though.
2006-10-27 15:41:28 · answer #10 · answered by bald_guy69 2 · 5⤊ 0⤋