I generally think that people most dislike qualities in others that they dislike most in themselves. Any takes on this?
2006-10-27 15:25:02 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Hey there Da ben dan!
I think you are very right about that observation. It's the worst when it's a person's personal issue that they can't master and so express their self anger by directing it at others when they see similar traits. Projection is the term for it. And, yeh, the total homophobe who later comes out as gay is a classic example but very far from the only situation you see it in.
How was your vacation?
2006-10-27 15:37:56 · answer #1 · answered by Alex62 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I find myself seeing in other people what I want to improve upon myself. Come to think of it, I hate the weight I've gained, yet I do not condem others that are overweight. I need to work on my self image, I really feel like I won't be acceptable (in my own eyes) until I loose 50 pounds.
2006-10-27 22:28:40 · answer #2 · answered by misskenjr 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
thats true for me. i love people who are the same as me, but hav all the qualities (or some of them) that i wish i had. but i can accept people with the same bad traits becuz im flawed so y cant tehy b flawed in the same way?
2006-10-27 22:27:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
definately, it's proven the worst gay bashers are closeted gay men. did you see will and grace when will was embaressed by jack at the gym because he was too gay, perfect example. we judge ourselves so harshly trying to stay in those tiny narrow boxes society tries to keep us in, that we can't bear to see someone else NOT following the "rules". Destroy all the boxes immediately and live guilt free and happy!!!!! now damn it!!! ....don't know if that'll help, but i feel better. lolololol
2006-10-28 06:06:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you're dead on. If they can;t stand the way they over-eat, they're not going to tollerate it when they see others do the same.
2006-10-27 22:35:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
well I think that may very well be true a great deal of the time.
2006-10-27 22:27:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
that's what's written in Demian, by Herman Hesse! I agree! By the way, how are you? long time, no see, new avatar..hmmm...
2006-10-27 23:10:15 · answer #7 · answered by Fabulous, young and broke! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh, I agree...I think that is true a majority of the time.
2006-10-27 22:58:27 · answer #8 · answered by redcatt63 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bingo...that's why there are so many disruptive heterosexuals on our site...they have sexual/identity issues....
2006-10-27 22:34:08 · answer #9 · answered by Lipstick 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i know it is true with me. hate to have to admit it but true
2006-10-28 00:19:29 · answer #10 · answered by jusme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋