she is a few years younger then me but she doesnt mind that. she had a one night stand with the father of her baby before she met me. im all over the place. i want to be with her but dont know if i can trust her not to be with a man again. she said she wont be that she wants me. we live miles apart too which doesnt help either. what will i do cause i really do love her
2006-10-27 15:23:38 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Well I was with over 30 men growing up trying to find that right one. I got married and was married for 17 years. My soul mate moved next door to me and we have now been together 14 years. I have two children and she loves and adores them as if they were hers....she was with men also at one time of her life and was with a woman for 5 years when I met her. I'm not going to worry that she's going to want to be with a man again and I know she isn't worrying about me. When you find that one and only you'll know....
2006-10-27 15:30:15 · answer #1 · answered by Lipstick 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is love. Does not make any difference if you are gay or straight. Also trust is trust. It should make no difference that she was with a man before you. You should trust that is she loves you she will be faithful.
Just remember the man is the babies father and she will have some contact with him as the father has parental rights. Are you ready to take care of her and the baby?It is a big responsibility but if you love her it will all work out.
Have confidence and move forward.
2006-10-27 15:28:49 · answer #2 · answered by Nevada Pokerqueen 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Girl i am with a woman that has 6 kids,if i can tolerate 6 you can one! Sometimes love comes in packages and you either take the good with the bad,or you don't take anything at all. It's up to you what to do in life,i would say go for it,the baby may even bring more joy to ya'll. Most of women that are lesbian have been with men before they turned gay.
2006-10-27 15:59:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
So funny that Zuluman has had the same experience I had with two Brazilian women. I was visiting a friend's mom and she was showing me a photo album. As I was looking through the photos I kept asking: "Who's this?!" and "Who's this?!", over and over again. My friend's mom and aunt were right in front of me. They were NOT pretty ladies (very nice, but not pretty, at all). On the pictures, they looked like models! So beautiful, with the most incredible bodies and gorgeous faces! Seriously. I wish I would have taken pictures of my friend's mom and aunt so I could show you. Not that it matters, if you truly love her, but these two ladies were totally different from what I saw on those pictures. Their features were different and they were four times (if not more) the size. You could wait to marry her, but you'll do what you want to do, no matter what people here tell you. Hope you're very, very happy in your marriage, and I really hope she doesn't "transform" like my friend's mom and aunt.
2016-05-22 02:10:37 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say give her a chance because every one deserves a first chance. and if she goes back then u cant not don't well what would have happened if i would have given her a chance and trying doesn't hurt u already Love her so it cant hurt any worse than anything else right now OK, i say give her a chance cause if u were in her situation you would want someone to give u a chance like the saying goes charge it to my mind not my heart. it was a mistake she made and she doesn't want him anymore. Plus if u don't then you'll wonder what if for the rest of the time.
2006-10-27 17:02:11 · answer #5 · answered by beautifulpersona 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not pressure her into anything , If she has had a bad time with a man , then she may be going through the "I hate men" period. She obviously has found men attractive at some point.
She may just need companionship and female company.
Only you can really know how she is feeling, But try and see things from her point of view, and try to suppress the feelings you have for her so your vision is clear.
2006-10-27 15:35:33 · answer #6 · answered by Drunvalo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is gay then she is gay. She probably tried hetro sex and doesn't really like it. Any fertile woman can get pregnant. That does not mean she is not gay or she will change her mind. Most gay women start out trying to be straight.When it doesn't work for them or they fall in love with a women they decide to come out of the closet. So If you both love each other go make love not war.
By the way ignore and report those hate mongers who attack you.
2006-10-27 15:28:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First you need to know if she can take same sex relationships. If she can't then its a signal to stop.
Second, keep in mind that straights are for straights. Unless the girl is in the same suit, its worth the try. But if not you are just waiting your time.
Third, always remember, a straight may fall into your hands but you need to be aware of the possibility that she may just take advantge of your love since she's alone and looking for someone to replace his previous man.
Fourth, don't do anything to hurt yourself in the future. Love yourself, Go only for something you know is 101% sure.
Fifth, the world will never un out of girls better than her.
2006-10-27 15:33:04 · answer #8 · answered by Dave S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself, are you willing to get together with this woman even if a child is involved?
Make a list, put pros and cons, but even if you do that, i want you to consider the decision of your heart the most. If you really love this girl, then if you follow what your heart says, then everything will be just fyn.
Just take a look at it from all angles, will you benefit from it? Will You Be Happy? ask yourself those questions...
2006-10-27 15:30:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I still don't understand,if that woman is really gay,why she is or was interested in male and got pregnant?That doesn't make sense!Maybe you should talk her through with that and know exactly what's her sexual inclination!you don't want to live with a woman who loves man not you besides having a kid!!!
2006-10-27 16:45:48 · answer #10 · answered by pu1988withpu1988 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋