is it possible to get over a 24 yr marriage in 6-7 months........on a emotional level i mean,,,,,,,,,can love be gone that quickly?
2006-10-27 15:15:28 · 42 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes it's possible, especially if the love is gone before the marriage actually ended.
2006-10-27 15:27:41 · answer #1 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once you've had someone in your heart I believe you always have a place for that person that never truly disappears or is totally destroyed. Sometimes anger over rides love for a period of time, but know love is never gone that quickly. Maybe suppressed and kept at bay, but not gone. Depending on what caused the separation will determine the extent of the alienation. Pride, hurt, anger can all be disguised. Being married 24 years can give a person plenty of time to build resentments, hurt, anger, etc. Look at the relationship for what it was and what's happening now. It's important to know your role in the outcome and recognize how you feel about it. Address it and try to move thru the pain. Good luck.
2006-10-27 15:23:43 · answer #2 · answered by crkristy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, you can't after being married for that long and that's the honest truth. Some say they are over it but if you get involved with them you will see they aren't over the previous marriage or the ex. Even if they stayed in a bad marriage for that length of time(for the sake of the children) - you don't get over something like that so quickly, too many years spent in pain will not make the person emotionally able to move on so quickly, they will take the "baggage" into the next marriage or relationship - make sure they have resolved the "issues" that caused their last marriage to end.
2006-10-27 15:19:04 · answer #3 · answered by jaimestar64cross 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the person, the relationship they were in, the circumstances of why the marriage ended. 24 years is a long time, and most likely if they met someone quickly - it is a rebound. No matter what - you would have a piece of your heart and sole invested in that person - how could you not after 24 years? If they act like they don't - it's just that - an act.
2006-10-27 15:33:32 · answer #4 · answered by Carey L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's entirely up to you. I think you would be unfair to yourself if you judged yourself wrongly whether it took you less than 6 months or if you never got over it emotionally.
I try to use this simple guideline when making a self assessment on similar issues.
If it took 24 (or however long) years to get the whole thing into the state of affairs that it is now in, then how can you expect it to be completely unravelled in any less time?
That way, I think I can forgive myself if I am not getting over a certain issue as quickly as I would like, but at the same time if I do, then I can consider myself LUCKY.
2006-10-27 15:26:53 · answer #5 · answered by No More 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think u can get over 24 years in 5yrs. Been there ,done that! Even if it was a terrible relationship it takes time and lots of it. The best thing is to find a new man-woman friend and look ahead not behind. I think of my X of 23yrs on a daily basis and the divorce was 6yrs ago. The answer is no-it cannot
2006-10-27 15:23:51 · answer #6 · answered by P/T Doctor 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way. You may be over the feelings of love...they may have been gone a long time ago, but you can't get over 24 years of anything that quickly. It takes time to work through that kind of stuff...
2006-10-27 15:20:27 · answer #7 · answered by Catlady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I don't believe so.... However some people say stuff like, it was over for a long time before it ended, if thats the case you may be able to get over it quicker than I think... everybody's different. But I always heard as a general rule for getting over loss or a breakup, that you should give yourself half the time that you were with that person, before you're really over it. Because it is a loss, and you need to greive.
2006-10-27 15:42:31 · answer #8 · answered by cartmansmom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No Mam, there is NO way! I have been divorced for 12 years, after a 25 year marriage, and it has taken up till now to even halfway get my life back in order......6 or 7 months is only the slight beginning, or was for me. Mine involved her cheating, so mine might take longer, but I still think it takes a long time. Best of luck to you!
2006-10-27 15:26:48 · answer #9 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Emotionally, I think there will always be some attachment because that's a long time to be with someone. But yes, I do believe depending on the circumstance that a person can accept the fact that a relationship is over and start to move on in that time - because to linger and mope about it isn't going to do any good.
2006-10-27 15:20:30 · answer #10 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋