I'm a guy, and I have this friend whos a girl, and she seems upset and depressed latley. I care about her, and im a little concerned. My main focuc is whenever i try to comfort her (when i try to hug her) she sorta pulls away. I dont think that its something i did, but does anybody have any advise, preferably from girls?
she never has been to fond of hugging, but latly she seems to be especially protective.
Pleez no dirty minds
Answers from girls would be helpful
2006-10-27 15:11:32 · 12 answers · asked by William H 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
There are ways to comfort her without touching her. Talking, looking into her eyes, showing you're there for her. When people are depressed, they want to be left alone. Their minds are working so hard that any kind of affection makes them uncomfortable. It's like having a toothache, it hurts so badly, but you don't want to be around anyone, you just want to be left alone to deal with the pain. Don't force it on her, she'll resent you for it and you may loose her. Just be there, and let her know that you are.
2006-10-27 15:22:30 · answer #1 · answered by St. Louis Rams Chick 1976 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is possible that something happened to her recently to make her especially protective. Send her a card, saying that you're thinking about her, that you care and want to be there for her, as her friend. Don't push to try to get her to talk; let her do so in her own time.
2006-10-28 06:39:17 · answer #2 · answered by postcardtrader 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually when that happens, they may be afraid of physical touch, by a guy. haha. i know i was that way at first, i was scared to be hugged / touched by a guy. but once i got comfortable around that person, then it got easier.
just tell her the truth, make her comfortable, but dont get to close to fast, that could be bad.
2006-10-27 15:40:51 · answer #3 · answered by Hannah :) 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When people are depressed or distanced themselves, the last thing they want is physical contact. Give her space and tell her that you're there for her, to listen and talk to whenever she's ready to.
2006-10-27 15:22:03 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may be as simple as the fact that she just doesnt like physical contact. Its a defense mechanism. Be there for her, but dont touch her unless she is comfortable with it.
2006-10-27 15:16:04 · answer #5 · answered by JC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are doing what you are suppose to do as a good friend just keep trying to be there for her but you should also get to the root of the problem that way you can help her better.
2006-10-27 15:21:34 · answer #6 · answered by L@M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She proably heard a rumor that yous to r going out.
2006-10-27 15:23:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you sure she does not have feeling for you. she could just be trying to get over you, i kno if it was me and i liked you i sure would not want to be hug by a person i like. just let her be for a while
2006-10-27 15:17:40 · answer #8 · answered by Love Exists? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
particular, he's shy and embarrassed of having an erection, once you're into him, next time attempt "kissing him" so he's conscious of you're into him, or supply up giving him those arousing "harmless" hugs, in the event that they're "harmless".
2016-10-16 11:48:41 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
slap her up side the head and tell her to get her marbels in order life is waiting for her and needs her tuch
2006-10-27 15:28:33 · answer #10 · answered by gary c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋