If I wanted someone to think highly of me, this person is not a member of my family, is that a sign of low-self esteem? Do people with high self-esteem really not care if an older person thinks they won't be successful or think that they are an idiot based on pass actions?
2006-10-27 14:48:13 · 7 answers · asked by Muse 4 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Oh... makes since Kee, I didn't grow up with any of my parents
2006-10-27 14:54:21 · update #1
Not really; it's human nature to want people to admire us. But it can become a problem when people attribute too much value to this 'attention'.
Low self-esteem does foster insecurity in us that might make us more anxious about what people think of us. Here's a good article on self-esteem that might help (and do a better job of explaining it than me) -
http://spiritize.blogspot.com/2006/10/self-esteem.html
Added: During socializing it's even more natural to worry about what the other person thinks about us (especially if we like or are attracted to the other person). That's why most of us preen so much during the mating stage ... :)
2006-10-28 05:01:34 · answer #1 · answered by Sam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wanting social aproval actually proves you are healthy .
Where people go wrong is how they go about getting that aproval and how important it becomes to get it .
If no one cared what anyone else thought society would be in chaos overnight .
Now where it goes wrong is breaking social conventins to get attention ( he will think I am cool if I steal that candy bar) .Behaving in such a way that suggests you consider bad attention to be just as good or better than good attention. He is a bad dude gets you attention but it isn't good attention .
If you devote your life to it If it becomes the center piece of your world etc etc then it is bad.
But wanting aproval and wanting people to think well of you is what makes family and society function - again if there is no other signs that go along with it , the need and want for someone or other to think well of you proves your emotional health
2006-10-27 15:01:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That in itself is not the sign of low self esteem.... It's a sign of ( I don't know the psychology term ) transferring feelings from one person (father/mother) onto someone else, and wanting to experience that type of relationship with someone.
2006-10-27 14:51:26 · answer #3 · answered by *babydoll* 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
People with low self-esteem usually can't take a compliment -- denying or refuting them. They are more likely to be eternal pessimists.
In the normal range, we can be disappointed that someone judges us poorly, and we then can resolve not to let it bother us in the future and/or do something to correct the fault of the perception that led to the judgment. We want to be liked, but we realize that not everyone will, and we leave them to their misguided interpretations. ;-)
2006-10-27 15:04:33 · answer #4 · answered by Mark S 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no matey its natural to want people to think an respect you okay, if you didnt you would have low self esteem..
past is the past talk about the future everyone makes mistakes thats how we become better people its when we realise that we are making a mistake we are able to correct it, take heart brave heart.
2006-10-27 14:59:08 · answer #5 · answered by GOOCH 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Re Q1 - actions speak louder than words !
Re Q2 - I don't know many "younger people" who care diddly-squat about an older persons' opinion of them.
Take people as you find them, and stick to your own gut instinct about the other person. If your instinct is a positive one, you'll find the compromises needed to work around your own personal issues.
2006-10-27 21:52:46 · answer #6 · answered by Hello 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want someone to think highly of you, that means you respect yourself.
2006-10-27 15:20:51 · answer #7 · answered by So far away 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋